Am I Totally Wrong In This Situation?
Nov 18, 2015 08:42:58 #
We all have problems, you just witnessed one of hers. WHY DO YOU CARE? Smile, and if you have a sense of humor, say "yes dear", her response will dictate your further relationship.... I usta keep a card in my wallet, guidance for emergencies, card had a cartoon of Snoopy on his dog house, paws crossed, on his back looking at the sky,,.. the balloon over Snoopys head said "fuck it!"....
Nov 18, 2015 08:46:12 #
TonyF
Loc: Bradenton, FL
quixdraw wrote:
Uh oh! You have been bitten by the dreaded PC snake!
My answer to the critics at my age, would be "any female under 40 looks like a girl to me! Get a life."
PC can create a toxic environment awfully fast. Fight back, leave, or put up with the BS. Best of luck!
My answer to the critics at my age, would be "any female under 40 looks like a girl to me! Get a life."
PC can create a toxic environment awfully fast. Fight back, leave, or put up with the BS. Best of luck!
:thumbup: :thumbup:
Nov 18, 2015 09:20:52 #
David Popham
Loc: French Creek, British Columbia
I had a similar experience. We moved to a relatively small community following our retirement. I joined the local camera club, and it seemed to me that there was a lot of drifting around with no direction. So I suggested that I give a talk on composition from a photographer's point of view. I was continually being heckled by that past president and I let it pass.
The next year I was asked to join the committee. They asked me to organize a roster from speakers. Given that there were over 80 members in the club and others outside the I took up the challenge.
After six months I had no more speakers. So I called on the members (in a nice way, mentioning that it was their club and that there was an expectation that members contribute as well as "take away" ideas.
Boy, did that stirr the pot. I was told that I had offended the members and that I had to step down. So I did. And left the club. This is what happen when you move into a small town.
My solution was to search the net, and as a result discovered you guys. The richness of knowledge, experience, and support in this group is amazing and so I am very happy to have discovered this forum.
Please contact me offline if you intend to travel to the BC coast.
The next year I was asked to join the committee. They asked me to organize a roster from speakers. Given that there were over 80 members in the club and others outside the I took up the challenge.
After six months I had no more speakers. So I called on the members (in a nice way, mentioning that it was their club and that there was an expectation that members contribute as well as "take away" ideas.
Boy, did that stirr the pot. I was told that I had offended the members and that I had to step down. So I did. And left the club. This is what happen when you move into a small town.
My solution was to search the net, and as a result discovered you guys. The richness of knowledge, experience, and support in this group is amazing and so I am very happy to have discovered this forum.
Please contact me offline if you intend to travel to the BC coast.
Nov 18, 2015 09:22:13 #
Yeah, quit the club. I'm sure the president has used the term "girls" many times - "Girls night out"?When someone goes out of their way to start an argument, it a good time to leave.
Nov 18, 2015 09:38:24 #
Nov 18, 2015 10:12:12 #
gloryg wrote:
Hello, br br I belong to a photo club. Like many ... (show quote)
Welcome to the age of political correctness. I'm the first one to say I HATE political correctness, because 95% of the time, there is absolutely no intention of ill will on the part of the person who is being politically incorrect. But at the same time:
The Platinum Rule is a good guide for life: "Do unto others as THEY WANT TO BE DONE UNTO..." In most urban areas, in fact most places in the USA and the Western World, most females over 14 do not want to be referred to as a "girl". "Lady," or "young lady," Miss, Ms, Mrs, or similar terms work well.
It may seem to be a compliment, but "girl" can have many kinds of degrading and insulting connotations. If you're not aware of them, just ask a few women to explain it to you. You'll have your ears burning in no time.
Women might refer to *themselves* as "girls", when they're engaged in "girl talk", but that doesn't mean you can use that term if you're not part of their group! It's the same as African Americans using the 'N' word to refer to their black friends. With them, it's a term of endearment, or brotherhood, or even respect (!). Coming from someone who isn't black, it's the worst kind of insult there is.
I know it's confusing, but you just have to accept it and move on.
Nov 18, 2015 10:23:06 #
paulrph1
Loc: Washington, Utah
I called my wife who is 65 a girl just the other day. NO offense was taken. Tell the PC crapper to take a long walk off of a short pier. Everyone does not think or talk the same. To some a girl might be anyone who is of the female gender in spite of the age. If you look in dictionary most words have multiple definitions and that is for a reason. While your definition does not fit the definitions in the dictionary there are definitions out there that are not printed.
Nov 18, 2015 10:32:35 #
paulrph1
Loc: Washington, Utah
burkphoto wrote:
Welcome to the age of political correctness. I'm t... (show quote)
I might be called a boy by someone and myself being of the male gender I have two choices, to be offended or to look at thing rationally. A boy might refer to someone being young or it might refer to an older man trying to make them feel young. Why be offended over something so trivial? But the President is using this as a sounding board and that should give you a clue to the fact that she is narrow minded and clueless.
Nov 18, 2015 10:48:53 #
Boy I'd REALLY be in trouble with the club president. Most of the time when I walk into a place where I often do business I'll say "Hey, kids!" Given my age (69) and their age (mid-30s) it seems appropriate.
Then again I've never, ever been accused of being politically correct ... go figure!
Personally I'd tell the president that it was meant as a compliment and if she didn't like it, here's your checkbook and a checklist of how to do what I'm thinking with it.
Again, refer to the 'not pc' comment above :)
Then again I've never, ever been accused of being politically correct ... go figure!
Personally I'd tell the president that it was meant as a compliment and if she didn't like it, here's your checkbook and a checklist of how to do what I'm thinking with it.
Again, refer to the 'not pc' comment above :)
Nov 18, 2015 11:04:31 #
gloryg wrote:
Hello, br br I belong to a photo club. Like many ... (show quote)
Another example of out of control PC-ness. Ask the president two questions: 1) what sort of 'serious problems' would occur and, 2) what should a transgender person be called and see what response you get. BTW, if I considered identifying a woman as a 'girl' then I would continue to do so.
Nov 18, 2015 11:12:52 #
Nov 18, 2015 11:34:07 #
Just be thankful you didn't refer to her as "that knockout chick with the nice boobs."
Nov 18, 2015 11:57:35 #
quixdraw wrote:
Uh oh! You have been bitten by the dreaded PC snake!
My answer to the critics at my age, would be "any female under 40 looks like a girl to me! Get a life."
PC can create a toxic environment awfully fast. Fight back, leave, or put up with the BS. Best of luck!
My answer to the critics at my age, would be "any female under 40 looks like a girl to me! Get a life."
PC can create a toxic environment awfully fast. Fight back, leave, or put up with the BS. Best of luck!
:thumbup: :thumbup: I refer to all my 'girlfriends' as 'girls' and they haven't been girls for a very long time! lol People need to get upset over things that matter, not trivial stuff.
Nov 18, 2015 11:57:47 #
John_F wrote:
Just be thankful you didn't refer to her as "that knockout chick with the nice boobs."
:mrgreen: :mrgreen:
Nov 18, 2015 12:03:46 #
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