kylan wrote:
rpavich wrote:
...We are all adults and we can take care of ourselves...
I'm sorry but we are not all adults here yes i can take care of myself (at least i like to think so) but im 13 (going on 14)
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now as far as cc goes something i read on another site was focus on 1 thing they could do better (ss for instance) and once they master that, go into something else they can work on (f/stop) and so on
Actually, Kylan you can be forgiven for not realizing this is for adults over 18 - since so few act like adults.
Behind the anonymity of the keyboard it seems we all regress to the 4th grade and the characters that come out are the same ones you used to see at recess.
We have the class clowns, the bullies, the smart-alec's that no one likes, the loudmouths, the mean girls (of either sex), the teacher's pets, the shy ones, the snipers who run and hide, the sarcastic ones, the suck-up's, those that pretend they want to help but really want you to always lose at dodgeball so they can rescue you, and finally, the very few you would consider worthy of your attention who consistently offer a rare nugget of value.
rpavich was correct- it IS dysfunctional. Please do not model yourself after what you've just experienced here. I'm glad that you had the courage to speak out. Someone has to be the adult. Frankly, I hope you don't get booted. Your perspective is valuable.
Anyhow, Kylan, there you go. Those are the kids who are in here. There are probably others I missed. And it IS hard to sort them all out without getting yourself clobbered (just watch what happens to my note here!)
But, as one poster said, it's all very simple for us if we want to make this an easier place to learn:
If someone doesn't ask for a critique, don't give one. If you do, be kind and polite about it.
If you offer an opinion, own it. Don't state it as a fact. And don't argue with someone else's opinion that was given to an original poster, not to you. That's called hijacking the thread - it happens here ALL THE TIME. If you simply want to weigh in on someone else's opinion, that's just noise pollution.
I suspect the hurtful BS that's seems to be on the increase would decline quickly if OP's would rate on a scale of 0-100 the helpfulness of each response they generate. Wouldn't it be revealing to discover just how much value we are giving to those who actually want help?
Maybe not as much as we think.