Mogul wrote:
There are a lot of threads here that are based on the subject of weddings. It seems to be a standard assumption that most of these events are WEDDINGS, formal affairs with the bride in a $5000 dress (or her grandmother's dress) and her attendants in really ugly handmade dresses; the groom and groomsmen are all wearing rented tuxedos. The affair includes two sets of parents who've been married 25-30 years, grandparents, sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, cousins, family friends - and the bride and grooms' parents' employers. There's a wedding planner, a florist, a baker, a caterer, a bartender, several servers, one poor left-out forgotten friend who is assigned the "honor" of getting everybody to sign a guest book that will never be seen after the wedding day (unless subpoenaed at a later date) there might be one or two old boyfriends or girlfriends invited by someone with a sense of humor - and there's a photographer or two or three. The WEDDING takes place in a church, or a garden or a beach (didn't anybody bother to say, "No heels, wear sandals or flats"? The photographer for this event had better be a local professional with a lot of equipment and crew to match. The bride's mother, who is IN CHARGO of the WEDDING is certainly the photographer's boss, and Heaven help the photographer who doesn't follow her directions in spite of his/her having successfully shot 200 weddings in the past oyear. And every darned picture WILL be perfect!
But, what about those other weddings. The bride is wearing a borrowed dress or a white or pink dinner dress, her maid of honor is in a miniskirt from high school, the groom is in a suit or sport jacket (hopefully with a tie) and the rest of the guests are dressed business casual to cut-offs and sweat shirts (some inside out). The venue is a cow pasture, a wedding chapel or, if this is a "formal" wedding, the small chapel of an otherwise large church; it might even be a JP's office or a jury deliberation room. The wedding planner is the minister's wife, the flowers are from Home Depot, the cake is a special order from Piggly-Wiggly, the caterer is Buba's B-B-Q ("Roast Pigs our Specialty"). The photographer is that cousin from out of state who is asked casually (15 minutes before the wedding) if he happens to have a camera (knowing, of course, that the guy/girl has a trunk full of gear, but not knowing that it's all dedicated to BIF, landscapes and patches of Lupine and Poppies along the freeway). This is the guy who is going to end up shooting the entire wedding, reception and subsequent arrest of half the guests for being drunk and disorderly. This is also the guy/girl who is going to get the reputation as the "family wedding photographer" and will be asked to photograph the next event, whether it be a wedding or a WEDDING,
This is also the member who is going to post a thread here asking, "what camera/lens should I use and can you recommend a shutter speed/aperture/ISO?" And half the responding members will try to help this poor soul and the other half will tell him/her that if he/she doesn't already know, he/she is crazy/stupid/masochistic for asking in the first place. Of course, the member is not going to get paid ("take some of that roast home with you") or thanked ("you took some good pictures; that's a mighty fine camera you have there"). And some of you are going to delight in destroying any hope this person has of getting out of this with anything but a promise to photograph Cousin Harriet and Cousin Beau at their wedding in July (yes, they're marrying each other - and it has to be in July; she's due in August). Thanks for the help!
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