Skills of parenting . (Page 2): Yeah, beat them while telling them it hurts you more than them. Or, it will make them a better person. How can you teach love by punishing? Does...

amyinsparta Loc: White county, TN

Yeah, beat them while telling them it hurts you more than them. Or, it will make them a better person. How can you teach love by punishing? Does physical punishment further love? Or is it done because we don't have any other answer? My son was never hit on the fanny or anywhere else. He was a wonderful person all of his 44 years on this plane of existence. Love, not punishment, raises a child.

dennis2146 Loc: Eastern Idaho

amyinsparta wrote:

Yeah, beat them while telling them it hurts you more than them. Or, it will make them a better person. How can you teach love by punishing? Does physical punishment further love? Or is it done because we don't have any other answer? My son was never hit on the fanny or anywhere else. He was a wonderful person all of his 44 years on this plane of existence. Love, not punishment, raises a child.

Amy, first I am sorry for your loss. I have lost both my son and daughter. Nothing could ever be worse for a parent than to lose their child.

But as parents we all have a choice of how to raise our children. You chose not to use corporal punishment and it worked for you. My stepson and his wife have never used corporal punishment on either of their daughters, one 11 and the other 2. They have never needed to use corporal punishment. I doubt that choice would have worked for my parents with raising three boys though.

Nobody has said beating a child was acceptable. We are talking about spanking, no whips, no chains, no belts, nothing like that was mentioned as a good thing to raise children.

Dennis

Bultaco Loc: Aiken, SC

Rathyatra wrote:

Badly needed in the UK given the increase in gang-related crime.

RainierView Loc: Eatonville, WA

amyinsparta wrote:

Yeah, beat them while telling them it hurts you more than them. Or, it will make them a better person. How can you teach love by punishing? Does physical punishment further love? Or is it done because we don't have any other answer? My son was never hit on the fanny or anywhere else. He was a wonderful person all of his 44 years on this plane of existence. Love, not punishment, raises a child.

There are ways to punish without hitting.

My daughter was a good kid. Back in 1970 I did swat my daughter on her rubber baby pants that were over her diaper, and that was rare. I'm sure she never felt it, but the noise made a point. Once she was out of diapers and misbehaved I made her stand in a corner. It got to where all I'd have to say was 'do you want to stand in a corner?'. She was never in trouble in school and was always polite. She is now a proud grandmother.

On my wife's side one of our granddaughters was slamming her bedroom door when she was upset. Her father removed the door. That ended that.

Fotoserj Loc: St calixte Qc Ca

Parenting starts 6 months before birth, and it is black and white dictature shipments, kids get tell what to do, not ask, boundary are set and over stepping is dealt with immediately négociations are absolutely out of question, do watch your ask or accept consequence.

rmalarz Loc: Tempe, Arizona

--Bob

Rathyatra wrote:

Badly needed in the UK given the increase in gang-related crime.

bodiebill

spanking is not violence! It is punishment for unacceptable behavior.

JCam Loc: MD Eastern Shore

rustfarmer wrote:

Sure. Let's teach our kids that violence is the answer to problem behavior. Sick.

Let us not forget that parenting is a skill seldom a taught, but rather learned through experience, and all parents quickly realize that corrections for minor infractions by a child the age of the one in the photo immediately applied work much better than a "Wait until your (other parent) gets home". I am not seconding beating a child, but a quick smack across the butt for a not too significant violation by your child your gets their gets attention like nothing else does and much more quickly. IN some cases it could even save their life.

PAR4DCR Loc: A Sunny Place

Got that when I deserved it during my childhood!

Don

dennis2146 Loc: Eastern Idaho

JCam wrote:

Let us not forget that parenting is a skill seldom... (show quote)

Neither of my parents believed in waiting for the other to come home. Punishment was usually swift and forthcoming but deserved.

Dennis

davyboy Loc: Anoka Mn.

dennis2146 wrote:

Exactly, the key word is, extremes. As a child I ... (show quote)

It’s call applying the board of correction to the seat of knowledge!

raymondh Loc: Walker, MI

Virgil Loc: The Hoosier State

To 'AMYINSPARTA'. "Love, not punishment, raises the child". I'm sure a lot of the crooks, thieves,
murderers, car jackers, wife abusers, child beaters and anyone else that fits in this category were "LOVED"
as a child when a little "PUNISHMENT" as a child could have kept them out of this group! So, now behind bars, they receive their "delayed' punishment. And usually at the expense of innocent victims.
P.S. I have a granddaughter who loved to "PLAY" 'time out'. A great help to her parents! I could go on.

Longshadow Loc: Audubon, PA, United States

Halftrack wrote:

A paddling is not "violence" to the majority of people. It is discipline, which we need a lot more than pansy ass kowtowing.

Longshadow Loc: Audubon, PA, United States

If the kids learn what respect is, then they hardly ever wind up getting spanked.