Harvey104/Jim, your post made me feel really good. I was surprised with the things that are similar when talking to Jo the few times that I have. I completely understand her doing something special for her soulmate on New Years like me with Carolyn, my soulmate. I'm so sorry you and yours lost your Son, that has to really hurt, and I understand your feeling that connection with me. I guess there are a lot more than I thought thinking the way we do. It is a warm feeling that I will remember about you and Jo and myself wanting to be close to someone we have lost like that at special times. The Fall is a really bad time for me, including May 2nd when I lost Carolyn. I find it hard to be happy in November. Nov 22nd is our Anniversary, then Nov 26th is Carolyn's Birthday, and then comes Thanksgiving. I'm usually so depressed Nov and Dec I haven't managed to put up a Christmas tree without her, and I miss that so much. I feel like things are getting a little better, but it takes time. Some people get used to those things quicker, and some it takes a lot longer like Jo and myself. I don't know how families pull through after loosing a child. Our Daughter had a mis-carriage just 4 months after Carol's funeral, and we decided to get permission from the Cemetery people to allow us to have the Baby Girl that Cindy would have had in a small casket and bury it on top of Carol's casket. That was a sad day also. God bless you and yours, and I hope Our Lord helps you getting Peace. Hope you have a wonderful New Year.