WirtzWorld wrote:
Great post Timmers.
The most important thing in this post is to be a good human. And this goes for every aspect of your life. Always act as though your being watched by your grandma. Don’t be cheap is second. Timmers is correct, PAY THE MODELS. I don’t think that I ever didn’t pay a model, except for the ones who hired me for portfolio stuffing. I only shot the shots they needed so it was more of a job for me. And yes, I even paid Amoreena even though we were very close friends. These girls are trying to get by. If a model is too expensive for you, find out in advance so there is no bad attitude after your session. In fact most models will want you to pay them up front. No problem, they will give you everything they signed up for. Don’t be an ass plug and ask them for hard core shots if that wasn’t discussed and agreed to in advance. And be respectful of these girls. They’re not broads or bitches or hoes or whatever. They are young ladies with feelings. If you screw or disrespect your model, good luck working with anyone else. Timmers is exactly right about how they talk to each other.
One more point he made is to join Model Mayhem. I’ve belonged to that site for like 20+ years. It’s a great resource.
Oh, and about my past in commercial photography: I only worked in someone else’s professional studio for a short time. 4-5 years I think. I then started my own studio - WirtzWorld Studio in Bay View, WI. I hope I wasn’t misleading in the past. I did go to college to learn the fundamentals and then studied under Joseph Kern Ford for many years. He taught me everything I know about studio lighting. I cultivated the artistic side of my life on my own. I should give a nod to Randers. Ron Anderson, who partnered with me during the last six or seven years of my studio career.
And there is my two extra cents worth.
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Thanks WirtzWorld, and thank you for opening the door to this discussion. Loads of hits and few pieces of feed back. I think we can expand on this subject because there are readers who want to know more of the inside of this whole world of nude modeling and the women who are involved.
There is that BIG question that enters the mind of the male reader, that most obvious one, do you 'sleep' with models? There is a guiding principle that effects your reputation, that is, are you in it for sex or are you there for the image making. I can only speak for myself when I state categorically that I don't have sex with models. This is because I'm there to create art, make great images at the least. Have I been propositioned by models? You better bet you, and it opens a whole 'can of worms!'
Women are quite human, and they do get aroused, in fact it is a primary base of doing nude photography. The problem is that none of us wants to be turned down and women feel this deeply. So you find yourself in a mine field when it happens. So, I put down the camera and sit and explain my feelings. I never go to the obvious idiotic place of defending my actions by invoking another female as an excuse, that just complicates the whole thing horribly.
I will often take the scene down a notch with a bit of humor, saying that Frank Zappa really never meant that "He was only in it for the money". I tell them that of course there obvious points, like they are beautiful and sensual, also sexy and I find them quite erotic, obviously, or I would not be so smitten by there present state. I also explain that for me it is the typical one dimensional male thing, either sex or art, and obviously this was about art and creating images that are beyond the moment.
Now, there is more to all this than most men ever understand. Women are much more complex than moist men think. We make jokes about this as men but there is great truth in the jokes. One of the things that men seem to have trouble getting and most of the literature (Like Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus as example) is really not vary helpful. Men live in the world of black and white, or call it yes and no. In addition, men have lines. The lines are not, no NEVER to be crossed. This means they will adhere to their position in a steadfast manner. Funny thing is women not only know this, they understand it perfectly. And women know that they, a woman can create the opertunity for a man they are close to (love) to move a line that they would never cross. No, that man will never cross that line but a woman can get him to move that line and that is an absolute recognized by all men. Women that are close to a man can move any line, it is how they operate.
The secret to women is ever so simple, they live in the world of perhaps. Women can and will suspend judgment on most anything. It is not that they don't have the absolute of yes and no, they do. The only great truth about all women is babies, all women (with few exceptions, weather they 'like' babies or not) are absolute about babies, children and the 'family'. It comes from their reproductive structure. When it comes to babies, women will not linger in 'perhaps', it is about being pregnancy (either they are or they are not, even when they think they are and until verified, bit the absolute is 'are you pregnant?').
So back to this state called 'perhaps'. This is the key to dealing with all women. They live in the state of perhaps, no decision has been made, they are simply opening the possibility for a change from perhaps to yes or no. Getting out of the involvement of sex is to understand that they are still in a state of perhaps and are telling you that they will change to yes. Your job is to speak to the fact that you would rather stay in the realm of perhaps. This is their normal state and they will remain there, at least for a while.
This is ever so critical to understand about the subject of your photographic adventure. Women are nude with you and are playing with the ig game of perhaps. It is up to you to be mindful of this and help them remain the fantasy of perhaps. That is where the work gets done and where the great pleasures of nude photography lies.
I hope this will expand on this discussion and get more participants involved. There are obviously men on here who have worked in this area and they have stories to tell. Please don't just lurk, add to the dialogue, tell your story, it can add so much to the knowledge.
Here you go, that image of Cristi Cane might just shed some interesting views as to this, so I will add more of the back story. Here again is the image of Cristi so you can view the image easily. This image has captured the interest of both men and women alike. The session began with Cristi and she found the green men's pull over and decided to do some images in it. I always follow what women are trying out and especially in Cristi's approach to modeling. She like most women have a deeply felt understanding of the erotic. With Cristi it was easy as she was a Scorpio, they really are the best model along with Taurus women, but then I am a Scorpio so that will mostly work with me.
So Cristi is modeling in the green sweater and her cell goes off, she glances at it and then gives me a certain look, I said to answer the phone. She explains that it is business. Yes, Cristi was an escort and this was a trick calling. She explains that she is modeling and that she could call back. The conversation goes a bit longer and she ends the call, tells me he wants to hook up when I'm done. I ask if he understands that you are a model doing a shoot. She tells me he doen't believe her, so idiot Tim asks if I can shoot her cell phone image and that she should send it to him. She gives me that cute smile, picks up the phone and shows me how to do a photo (I'm a pathetic idiot when it comes to modern technology). This amuses Cristi immensely, she tells me that I have my finger covering the lens and then shows me how to hold the camera. Three tries later she has the image much like what you see, a little cockeyed but with her lovely yoni showing. She sends the image.
The phone rings and Cristi answers.
Yes, that is me and the photographer thins this is fun so he did this cell phone photo to send it to you because I told him you did not believe I was a model.
At that point I took the phone from Cristi and explained that yes Cristi was a pro model (which she was) and has been modeling for quite some time and that he should be honored to take her on a date, she doesn't much date and is busy modeling a lot. So he should be really nice to Cristi and consider this quite an honor. He ask and I told him that she did not care if he shared the picture with his buddies, but to treat her as the lady she is, then I gave her the phone back and she told him she would call when her shoot was done, then turned the phone off!
She looked at me and asked if I understood that he was a trick? I said yes, but among men he should be in a fantasy world about getting into her drawers even if for money and that the photographer would not. She smiled and I said that this would be good advertising, the ol' 'word of mouth' sort of thing.