For someone who sounds as serious about their photography as your daughter-in-law... someone who has literally worn out some relatively recent model cameras (if what you say is true)...

I DEFINITELY wouldn't try to buy a camera for them!

She probably has a very good idea what she likes & wants and you're unlikely to know the details anywhere near as well as she does. In other words, unless she has specifically stated something she would like to work with, you and your son will more likely than not buy the wrong camera and lens!

I would STRONGLY recommend you and your son instead get her gift certificates from someplace where prices and selection are good, like B&H Photo or Adorama in NYC. Then she can make her own choices and get exactly what she wants,... rather than being "stuck" with what you THINK she would want. Maybe she'll opt to keep one of her current cameras and simply get better lenses. Or maybe she will want a new camera that can use existing lenses from one of her cameras. Or maybe there's another system entirely that she'd like to get into.

FWIW: You mention she travels a lot to take photographs. In that case, a full frame mirrorless would very likely end up bigger and heavier than the cameras she uses now. The camera body might be a bit lighter, but it will need to use full frame-capable lenses which are no smaller and lighter than the lenses for full frame DSLRs. APS-C "crop only" ("DX" in Nikon terms) lenses which she might already have for her D5300 might be smaller and lighter. An APS-C mirrorless camera might be a bit smaller and lighter for travel, provided it's used with native lenses (rather than adapted lenses). But Nikon doesn't make one, so she would need to change systems (and may or may not be able to adapt her Nikon F-mount lenses). A micro 4/3 format mirrorless can be even smaller and lighter. But, again, it depends... For example, mirrorless with viewfinders (if she wants one) aren't a great deal smaller and lighter than the smallest and lightest APS-C DSLR models (such as a Canon SL2, which is one of the smallest).

But, again, get her gift certificates and let her make her own choices. Maybe she wants a Fuji mirrorless (X-mount lenses offer one of the best selection). Nikon doesn't even make an APS-C format mirrorless... only full frame. And they only make 3 lenses for it, so far. Canon makes both APS-C and full frame mirrorless now... but so far there are very limited lenses for both, too (about 8 for the APS-C and only 4 for the full frame... and they aren't interchangeable). Panasonic and Olympus partner in making m4/3 cameras and lenses to use on them, so there's pretty good selection both of cameras and lenses. Sony has been making APS-C and FF mirrorless for quite a while, too... so have a fairly good selection of lenses. But Sony's tend to be more expensive than Nikon's... whose lenses in turn tend to be more expensive than Canon's. Fuji's lenses also ain't cheap. In fact, due to their popularity... they're the "latest, greatest thing".... mirrorless cameras and the lenses designed for them tend to be substantially more expensive than relatively comparable DSLRs (which are now "old school", I suppose.... I'm just waiting to hear, "Hey look, that geezer is still shooting with a DSLR!")

I second the gift certificate idea. My wife is very generous and well-intentioned, but even after travelling to photography and model railroading and amateur radio meetings and events with me, she still does not have matching experience and understanding that would reliably lead her to make the same choices that I would when selecting something that she might want to purchase as a gift for me.

It is likely that neither of you are fully aware of what she may feel is her greatest need or her plan and preference for meeting that need. She may love her D5300 and want to concentrate on a new lens or lenses. Or she may not want to do anything about the Nikon equipment and find a replacement for the Sony. And she may be thinking about something completely different to accomplish that replacement. Selecting photographic equipment is an intensely personal experience for most of us. I don't have any need or desire for anything new right now, but if I did, I would not want anyone else choosing it for me.

If you read here for a while, you will quickly learn that there is a lot of emotional energy around whether or not to switch to mirrorless. On both sides. Please don't presume which side she is on.

I understand that many folks do not like to give money or gift certificates as gifts...not personal enough. But in this case, that would be exactly the most personal thing to do.

My wonderful daughter-in-law will be 50 next month. Over the last 10 years she has become an excellent photographer with her Nikon 5300 (18-300 lens) and Sony RX100 M1 -- but they are about worn out. Her job has her traveling a lot -- both domestic and international -- so she takes a lot of travel pictures but also many family shots. She processes in Lightroom and publishes Shutterfly books.

Seems like a good time to move to a mirrorless system. Smaller and less weight than the Nikon 5300 would be good. I have read a bunch of reviews, but not sure about full frame vs M43, size, etc.

My son will buy the camera body, I'll pop for a lens. Hopefully a package under $3,000.

Thanks for your suggestions!