open for discussion: I guess we are open for discussion -- is the father of the bride allowed to take some pictures with permission from the daughter, wife. and the hired photographer?

Appletonwest Loc: Wisconsin

I guess we are open for discussion -- is the father of the bride allowed to take some pictures with permission from the daughter, wife. and the hired photographer?

sinatraman Loc: Vero Beach Florida, Earth,alpha quaudrant

if the father of the bride is paying for the wedding, he can darn well do whatever he wants!

Harvey Loc: Pioneer, CA

Well as the father of 4 daughters - I would say He-- Yes.
As now kinda level headed - OK sometimes - I would say to discus it with both the bride & the pro as to when & where it would not disturbe either of them.

"Comunication is the Answer to All your problems"

IMHO

francesca3 Loc: Sausalito, CA

Ummm, yeah!!! I would, though, as a courtesy, inform the hired photographer of your intended photographic participation so there is no animosity or confusion, and then shoot away! Are congratulations in order for the father of the bride?

micro Loc: Texas

sinatraman wrote:

if the father of the bride is paying for the wedding, he can darn well do whatever he wants!

You sound like a bachelor without any daughters.
I'd say the frather of the bride and do anything his wife and daughter says he can.

Harvey Loc: Pioneer, CA

Like I end all discussion with my wife of 54 yrs - "Yes Dear"[
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sinatraman wrote:

if the father of the bride is paying for the wedding, he can darn well do whatever he wants!

You sound like a bachelor without any daughters.
I'd say the frather of the bride and do anything his wife and daughter says he can.[/quote]

traveler90712 Loc: Lake Worth, Fl.

Appletonwest wrote:

I guess we are open for discussion -- is the father of the bride allowed to take some pictures with permission from the daughter, wife. and the hired photographer?

Yes!!! Communication with the hired photographer is key!

I am not now or ever will or want to be a hired wedding photographer.

The brides father (a friend) asked me to take some pictures along with the hired photographer and videographer. I only took pictures at the two receptions (Pakistan wedding). I shot over 600 pictures along (a couple of videos too) with both hired photo persons. I stayed out of their way and they keep out of mine.

I had a CD photo album to him, along with the appropriate music in three weeks. After the brides wedding party seen our work and their hired photographer told them it would be another month, they fired him and used mine for the printed album.

I am not now or ever will or want to be a hired wedding photographer, but will go out of my way for a real friend.

Iduno Loc: Near Tampa Florida

Are you talking about taking pictures at your own daughters wedding? Allowed vs not allowed has already received some very good answers. To me it is more a question of appropriateness. I've seen all three of my girls get married and at each my first obligation was to the bride, then to my family, then to the guests. This didn't allow any time for photography (and my wife wouldn't allow me).

It's her day. Anything that takes the attention off her should be avoided. We're all just props that day.

heyjoe Loc: cincinnati ohio

agree,why would you want to,you have a pro,enjoy the day with her

Festina Lente Loc: Florida & Missouri

Iduno wrote:

Are you talking about taking pictures at your own ... (show quote)

AGREED!! :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:

Shakey Loc: Traveling again to Norway and other places.

Festina Lente wrote:

quote=Iduno Are you talking about taking pictures... (show quote)

Having two daughters, both turned fifty, and three granddaughters I most certainly agree with the above. The rule is pay plenty of compliments and stay out of the way until required to pose. Do not give advice to any photographer pro or amateur. :roll: :lol: :thumbup:

DJ Mills Loc: Idaho

It sounds like you already know the chain of command. So long as you remembers you are at the bottom and have permission from those above you, you are OK. If you can get the bride & mother to go along with a new idea at this point, you are home free. ("Free" being a relative term and not to be confused with the impending bankruptcy of a daughter's wedding.) Been there. Done that.

pounder35 Loc: "Southeast of Disorder"

djmills wrote:

It sounds like you already know the chain of command. So long as you remembers you are at the bottom and have permission from those above you, you are OK. If you can get the bride & mother to go along with a new idea at this point, you are home free. ("Free" being a relative term and not to be confused with the impending bankruptcy of a daughter's wedding.) Been there. Done that.

Isn't a husband/father always at the end of the chain of command? :lol: :roll: The only one that listens to me is my dog. Sometimes. :lol:

Shakey Loc: Traveling again to Norway and other places.

djmills wrote:

It sounds like you already know the chain of command. So long as you remembers you are at the bottom and have permission from those above you, you are OK. If you can get the bride & mother to go along with a new idea at this point, you are home free. ("Free" being a relative term and not to be confused with the impending bankruptcy of a daughter's wedding.) Been there. Done that.

You are so right, Djmills. My girls would love me to create a needlepoint display of your quote, if only I could hold the needle steady. As for the 'bankruptcy of a daughter's wedding' that was long ago and a painful episode, which happened twice, and I try to forget. The memories look better through the bottom of a glass when pals come around to my shack to commiserate. :-( :roll:

ziggy7 Loc: Jax, Florida

I don't mind the guests making photos as long as they stay out of my way. I try to get the bride to ask the guests to let the hired photographers take their photo first, "And then we'll stay posed for the guests to get pictures". Looking Pro really helps. I use the tripod whenever I'm stationary, and wear a black shirt with "Roger Engle Photography" embroidered in teal on the back. I often have my flash on its own light stand for the formals. Whenever possible I try not to block the guest's view of what is happening.