salmander wrote:
This individual has made other, similar criticisms here in the past. Hopefully, it's because he is young and has not yet learned to treat others with more patience and respect. There's a concept in psychology that states that when someone says something to you that makes you feel humiliated, put down, put "in your place," or something similar in a personally negative way, that is exactly the intent of what they said. Occasionally, a young person may be naive about the consequences of their language, but for most people this is true. Such speech derives from the individual attempting to bolster their (apparently flagging) ego, because they feel vulnerable, or even somehow weakened, about something in their life, and they take it out on others. Their "success" has the illusion of alleviating this feeling, but in reality they still have the same vulnerability or weakness, and it will come out again later. They have not worked on their problem and resolved it. People who drink a lot every day do this, because inebriation postpones any possibility of resolving any issues that may be negatively affecting their life. Hopefully, that's not the problem here. Resolving our problems take time, and is rarely a quick fix type of scenario.
Here on UHH, we bring up questions and make comments that are in error, need correction, are not quite right, etc. all the time. That is one of the major reasons for coming here - to improve our occasionally erroneous ways or areas of naivete. Criticism can be made without resorting to negative responses.
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