Sherrie wrote:
English_Wolf wrote:
Did I say they needed fixed? I said What can you do to make them less preeminent. Quite a difference.
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They are likely this way I hope she will outgrow them but in the mean time, lowering the white intensity in them may help the whole effect**.
THAT is about photo itself, not the child.
So you are telling her to change what her beautiful child looks like? That makes no sense........
What I am saying is that her teeth are preeminent and by a slight change of shade/ brightness whatever so she could avoid some of the attention. I did not mention altering the size or anything like that, this is part of the kid.
I did not imply anything about her child being pretty or not. The odd thing is I have never cared one way or another about cute or not, pretty or not, it a photograph, nothing else.
Where have you seen me make any comment about the cuteness (or absence of) on anything? I knew it was a sensitive subject so I went into PM vs public. THAT was my mistake.
Next time, for anyone? Who cares about the other feelings, someone brought out the teeth problem anyway. I suspected it had to do with something out of control when I said:
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They are likely this way I hope she will outgrow them
so where is the critique on the child?
In a way it is the same as kid who still has its baby teeth, big head small teeth. So what? As to children who have a gap, lost tooth or not, so what? Now should we make sure we avoid the subject or suggest ways to mitigate the look? That was my intent.
Bad mother? (Since I am at it) where do you see that? Because I say 'take your distance?'
The whole thing is ridiculous.
BUT MY DOING Not because I was rude, I was not, not because I was insulting, I was not, but because I caused her reaction. I was leery sending this. It is MY DOING because I was stupid enough to think she would see what my intent was and clicked 'send'. Error of judgement on a person's character. This is where my fault lies. Would I retract anything I said? No. Would I have sent it, knowing what has happened? No.
All the rest? I stopped caring. One can interpret anything I say even in what I type now, so what is the point?
Waiting for the next flame now.