How do you respond?
Dec 15, 2011 14:07:49 #
Roger Hicks
Loc: Aquitaine
Mickey88 wrote:
that simple sstatement has the power to do 2 thing... (show quote)
I didn't mean to imply disapproval for a minute. It's a brilliant response -- and VERY smooth indeed!
Cheers,
R.
Dec 15, 2011 14:29:22 #
Mickey88 wrote:
I would have said " Your daughter is Beautiful just the way she is, why would you want her to look like someone else."
I sure wouldn't say that. Could be misunderstood. Perhaps she is asking for a similar pose and lighting. Just say "I'll do my best."
Dec 15, 2011 14:42:49 #
fotomagic
Loc: Glendale, Arizona
Dria wrote:
quote=Roger Hicks quote=Roger Salls I will do my... (show quote)
On the contrary, I think her mother does "see" her, she is just either very insecure about her appearance or the other sin, trying to make her into what she wants or how the mother wishes she could look. Either way the mother will not be happy with the results. I've been through this before..
Dec 15, 2011 15:10:51 #
Mickey88
Loc: Central Florida
I didn't think that you did, I was just elaborating...
Roger Hicks wrote:
quote=Mickey88 that simple sstatement has the pow... (show quote)
Dec 15, 2011 15:13:53 #
Mickey88
Loc: Central Florida
I would say that in a heartbeat, it's pretty simple statement, hard to misunderstand, if the client meant pose or lighting, that gives them the opportunity to explain I'm very honest and upfront with people, and have never had a client that didn't tell me it was a pleasure working with me and they look forward to doing it again, because I make all my shoots fun
larrycumba wrote:
I sure wouldn't say that. Could be misunderstood. Perhaps she is asking for a similar pose and lighting. Just say "I'll do my best."
Mickey88 wrote:
I would have said " Your daughter is Beautiful just the way she is, why would you want her to look like someone else."
I sure wouldn't say that. Could be misunderstood. Perhaps she is asking for a similar pose and lighting. Just say "I'll do my best."
Dec 15, 2011 15:45:00 #
Ahhh... I am glad I asked this..
Now I know to say..
"What do you like about Julie's portraits"
Because that is how I end up doing Senior pics- the kids show their parents Julie's photos on facebook (and maybe on my blog too)and want her/that look.
which is mainly casual and relaxed.
Now I know to say..
"What do you like about Julie's portraits"
Because that is how I end up doing Senior pics- the kids show their parents Julie's photos on facebook (and maybe on my blog too)and want her/that look.
which is mainly casual and relaxed.
Dec 15, 2011 15:55:09 #
Roger Salls
Loc: Stratford, CT
The real truth is all women are beautiful...some wear their beauty some keep it in their hearts.
Dec 15, 2011 16:56:16 #
I have been told that black or dark clothes make a person look slimmer?
Dec 15, 2011 20:39:18 #
Roger Salls wrote:
The real truth is all women are beautiful...some wear their beauty some keep it in their hearts.
I like that, Roger. :-)
Dec 15, 2011 20:46:29 #
I took headshots (for class year book) for a young man who is...lets say, a bit chubby. Nice looking guy, very round face and large build. Mom hated the shots. Said he looked fat. So studio owner re-took them, as she is MUCH more experienced than I. Again...mom hated them. Said his face is too fat. I would never say this to a persons face, but there comes a point when you think things like, "Hello mother! he IS fat!" We tried different angles, shooting from a little above, turning his face to the side as we do the girls for that model look, no luck. We will never please this mom. And probably not make much of a sale. Not every person is extremely photogenic. We as photographers can enhance or distract with posing, lighting and placement, but we can't take 100 pounds off a fella. Darn it. If we could, I would be IN more pictures. =)
Dec 16, 2011 05:51:27 #
I haven't tried it but have read that shooting those with more than ample proportions from above as it makes them look less stocky for lack of a better word. Perhaps a step ladder is in order. Also to get you off the hook you might ask her to help with the shoot in order to get what she wants. That way you have an out as she was in on the job.
Dec 16, 2011 05:58:29 #
I think a simple "what do you mean?" would have sufficed. Then you would have some clarity.
Dec 16, 2011 06:51:31 #
Explain that each person is unique in heir own right. The person making the request may have some psychological problems. Making that little girl look like someone else can damage her ego and cause problems later for her. Simply lady know that you take portraits of people as they are.
Frank Kello
Licensed Mental Health Counselor
Frank Kello
Licensed Mental Health Counselor
Dec 16, 2011 07:01:58 #
rivernan wrote:
I think a simple "what do you mean?" would have sufficed. Then you would have some clarity.
Exactly.
I'd find out what she was asking before I responded.
Dec 16, 2011 07:15:26 #
That's a toughie. If the daughter hears that comment it kinds of knocks her self confidence. You are there to take the best picture possible. Maybe you could pull the mom aside and suggest a different outfit, hire a hair dresser and maybe a make-up artist. This will bring out her child's TRUE BEAUTY.
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