How do you respond?
Dec 15, 2011 07:45:59 #
You are going to take senior portraits--
The mom of the girl you are going to photograph says "make her look like (in my case) Julie (MY daughter)"
Ummm this girl looks nothing like my daughter...(well she could if she weighed 40lbs less, had dark hair and..well you get the idea)
I just have no idea what she is "looking for" with that comment/ request.
How do you respond to that type of "request"?
The mom of the girl you are going to photograph says "make her look like (in my case) Julie (MY daughter)"
Ummm this girl looks nothing like my daughter...(well she could if she weighed 40lbs less, had dark hair and..well you get the idea)
I just have no idea what she is "looking for" with that comment/ request.
How do you respond to that type of "request"?
Dec 15, 2011 08:07:04 #
Roger Salls
Loc: Stratford, CT
I will do my utmost to bring out in your daughter the beautfiful young lady she is. Hopefully she isn't a spoiled rotten person.
Dec 15, 2011 09:03:20 #
Roger Hicks
Loc: Aquitaine
Roger Salls wrote:
I will do my utmost to bring out in your daughter the beautiful young lady she is
Dear Roger,
Wonderfully tactful!
My own response would be (a) run a mile or (b) if that doesn't work, try soft focus and every trick in the book (clothes, lighting, posing...) Quite honestly I'm not a good enough portraitist to do it, but I've seen a few people who are, so I'd study their work VERY carefully to see what lighting and poses they used.
Also, old books on portraiture (1920s to 1950s) tend to be a bit more blunt than modern ones, which sometimes read as if they were afraid the subject might read them and see that the photographer used slimming lighting, poses, etc.
Cheers,
R. .
Dec 15, 2011 09:46:17 #
Roger Salls wrote:
I will do my utmost to bring out in your daughter the beautfiful young lady she is. Hopefully she isn't a spoiled rotten person.
{LOL} not totally rotten. I like your tactful response.
Dec 15, 2011 09:48:52 #
Roger Hicks wrote:
quote=Roger Salls I will do my utmost to bring ou... (show quote)
I tried to run! I think I can get good shots of her. I am just afraid the mom doesn't really "see" her.
Dec 15, 2011 10:22:19 #
Let me know if you can photo someone to look like somone else. If so, I'd like a photo of me, making me look like George Clooney.
Dec 15, 2011 10:27:52 #
Dec 15, 2011 10:52:18 #
Dira. It sems that her expations may be unrealistic. If you are doing senior pictures that will include her daughter. Do the great job you are capable of. If The girls mother is not as happy as the other parents. Take it for what it's worth. Not everyone can be satisfied by even the best of results. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Some peopele behold a vision that no one else can see.
Good luck and Merry Christmas.
Good luck and Merry Christmas.
Dec 15, 2011 11:13:17 #
Old Timer
Loc: Greenfield, In.
I will take the picture to the best of my ability, but each person is an individual, and I will try to accent the features the best I can, and hope you will like the results.
Dec 15, 2011 11:53:28 #
Mickey88
Loc: Central Florida
I would have said " Your daughter is Beautiful just the way she is, why would you want her to look like someone else."
Dec 15, 2011 11:59:26 #
Roger Hicks
Loc: Aquitaine
Mickey88 wrote:
I would have said " Your daughter is Beautiful just the way she is, why would you want her to look like someone else."
Now THAT's smooth talking!
Cheers,
R.
Dec 15, 2011 12:01:27 #
Dec 15, 2011 12:02:59 #
Frank T wrote:
Let me know if you can photo someone to look like somone else. If so, I'd like a photo of me, making me look like George Clooney.
Oh my gosh--have you seen the show on TLC "Kitchen Cousin's" the one cousin totally looks so much like George C! My husband kept saying to me--who does he look like?? I went to see who he was talking about-- GEORGE! -- Husband looked at me''O right! he does!!"
Dec 15, 2011 12:04:24 #
Roger Salls wrote:
She's not really your daughter is she...
now that's mean :oops: (lol)
Dec 15, 2011 12:18:47 #
Mickey88
Loc: Central Florida
Roger Hicks wrote:
Now THAT's smooth talking!
Cheers,
R.
Mickey88 wrote:
I would have said " Your daughter is Beautiful just the way she is, why would you want her to look like someone else."
Now THAT's smooth talking!
Cheers,
R.
that simple sstatement has the power to do 2 things.
1. make the mother realize how bad, her statement is,
2. if the daughter is there, it will give her a shot of confidence which will yield better photos.
I have several stories of women who didn't like to have their photos taken,because they had low self esteem , but right persuasion, before the shoot, and the right encouragement and compliments during the shoot, made them open up and believe in themselves, to the point that they loved the photos and then would ask me if we could shoot again sometime..
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