Person who attended events
Mar 12, 2019 08:57:49 #
gloryg wrote:
Hello, br br I organize photo events. There is s... (show quote)
Maybe the person is very nice, enjoys the events, and you have seriously stereotyped/ misjudged him based on his appearance.
Find a way to reach out him in a nice gesture of kindness, and see what happens.
Mar 12, 2019 09:07:00 #
That is an interesting look on the subject. Thank you for your advice and critique
Mar 12, 2019 09:10:16 #
gloryg
Loc: New York
No it was nothing like that.
As I mentioned this person has not done wrong at the events.
There had been some email responses that have made me question them.
As an example I had to cancel one of the events due to lack of attendance. This person"s response to the cancellation expressing their disapointment came across like this event was their entire life.
As I mentioned this person has not done wrong at the events.
There had been some email responses that have made me question them.
As an example I had to cancel one of the events due to lack of attendance. This person"s response to the cancellation expressing their disapointment came across like this event was their entire life.
Mar 12, 2019 09:11:58 #
I had a stalker once. When I began talking to my invisible friend Benji, the stalker ditched me.
Mar 12, 2019 09:21:06 #
This may not be the event to do this but at a well attended event where this person is present and at future events, I would take candid photos of the crowd as they wander the exhibit, etc. This way you have a record of his appearance and he knows that you have a record of his appearance.
Mar 12, 2019 09:47:57 #
joehel2 wrote:
This may not be the event to do this but at a well attended event where this person is present and at future events, I would take candid photos of the crowd as they wander the exhibit, etc. This way you have a record of his appearance and he knows that you have a record of his appearance.
"his appearance" Gender was never mentioned. There was no mention of the type of tour. Rural or city.
Mar 12, 2019 09:57:58 #
traderjohn wrote:
"his appearance" Gender was never mentioned. There was no mention of the type of tour. Rural or city.
In my response, I ventured the person was a man. The OP has not said.
Regardless, one should not think the worst of people without reason.
Lonlyness is tough.
Mar 12, 2019 10:11:25 #
1) if you have an event, and it becomes only you and "him" it is not an event, cancel it for lack of interest and get in your car and drive into town.
2) If you have the event, take someone you are familiar with and the two of you approach and get to know this person. Talk about his camera, why he chose the particular camera bag he has, etc. Questions that will inform you if he really is a photographer or just a picture taker. Discuss his interests in photography, and learn as much as you (and your friend) can learn. Find out if he has kids, mention you are in your 40th year of marriage, ask lots of questions. You may feel better about him, or you may put him on the defensive.
3) If you really want to get rid of him, ask him to volunteer to run the next event (Poof, where did he go?)
2) If you have the event, take someone you are familiar with and the two of you approach and get to know this person. Talk about his camera, why he chose the particular camera bag he has, etc. Questions that will inform you if he really is a photographer or just a picture taker. Discuss his interests in photography, and learn as much as you (and your friend) can learn. Find out if he has kids, mention you are in your 40th year of marriage, ask lots of questions. You may feel better about him, or you may put him on the defensive.
3) If you really want to get rid of him, ask him to volunteer to run the next event (Poof, where did he go?)
Mar 12, 2019 10:17:04 #
traderjohn wrote:
I know that feeling. In January of 1968, I met this girl. We always had a good time when we saw each other but there was something about her that made me a little nervous. In June we will be married 50 years. I still have this gut feeling. Do you think I should have trusted my gut or taken things as they unfolded?
Mar 12, 2019 10:24:50 #
Is there any reason you have to put the event together by yourself? Is there a leader or assistant? Just tell them that you cannot be there alone ahead of the event.
Mar 12, 2019 10:55:00 #
traderjohn wrote:
I know that feeling. In January of 1968, I met this girl. We always had a good time when we saw each other but there was something about her that made me a little nervous. In June we will be married 50 years. I still have this gut feeling. Do you think I should have trusted my gut or taken things as they unfolded?
It's a little bit different when you are a female getting bad vibes from a male and the writer might be alluding to this. Females are much more often the victim of sexual abuse and physical abuse than males and we must operate differently to protect ourselves. Making light of this situation, if I am correct in my assessment, is uncalled for. Of course, you, being male, may not realize the seriousness of the situation.
Mar 12, 2019 11:02:44 #
Mar 12, 2019 11:14:10 #
Events do get canceled when minimum
attendance figures are not reached. It's
rather routine.
attendance figures are not reached. It's
rather routine.
Mar 12, 2019 11:15:51 #
via the lens wrote:
It's a little bit different when you are a female getting bad vibes from a male and the writer might be alluding to this. Females are much more often the victim of sexual abuse and physical abuse than males and we must operate differently to protect ourselves. Making light of this situation, if I am correct in my assessment, is uncalled for. Of course, you, being male, may not realize the seriousness of the situation.
Did she mention the person was a male? Of course, you made an assumption. When you make assumptions the first three letters of the word have found a home. Your second assumption that as a male I would not understand the seriousness of the situation. Sounds a bit sexist, don't you think? There is that assumption again. Congratulations.
What is the "seriousness of the situation" What happened? Has anything happened?
Mar 12, 2019 12:41:57 #
via the lens wrote:
It's a little bit different when you are a female getting bad vibes from a male and the writer might be alluding to this. Females are much more often the victim of sexual abuse and physical abuse than males and we must operate differently to protect ourselves. Making light of this situation, if I am correct in my assessment, is uncalled for. Of course, you, being male, may not realize the seriousness of the situation.
I had no sense that traderjohn was making light of the situation at all. I rather enjoyed his interjection and did not feel it was in any way out of line. Sometimes when discussing a serious subject a lighthearted moment is needed. Thank goodness we are looking forward to a possibility and not backwards to an unfortunate even that has occurred. Just recently I had to deal with an individual with mental illness issues that I dare not diagnose but who is definitely controlling and manipulative. Thank goodness he is not part of the family!! After daring to stand up to him toe to toe he put on his alter-submissive-ego. I don't think too many people have dared to do that to him. In this case, we certainly don't want our friend to have to deal with some psycho by herself.
Note: I don't go looking for confrontations. In this case, the individual had said some rather mean things to my wife and had upset her quite a bit. I basically told him that he would not talk to my wife like that again and he, apparently, took umbrage that I would tell what he could not do in so many words and decided to escalate things from there, until he saw that I wasn't backing away.
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