jerryc41 Loc: Catskill Mts of NY

Her's something to think about. A friend of mine, about 70 years old, is looking for relationship advice. What better place to look than UHH!

He's good friends with a woman about his own age - known her for years. They're in a local singing group, so they see each other a couple of times a week, and they have gone on away trips with their singing group. He would like to take the relationship to the next level - hand-holding, doing things together - basically a boyfriend/girlfriend situation.

He's afraid that if he says anything to her, she'll be shocked, and it would hurt their relationship. He doesn't want to ruin what they have now. Another possibility is to consult a mutual friend, a woman they are both friendly with and have known for years. He thinks his friend might have said something to this other woman about her feelings for him. If she hasn't said anything, he thinks she might be able to inquire tactfully to see if she has any interest in him.

This is almost a funny situation - like junior high kids. He likes her, but he's afraid to say anything, but I think they would make a great couple. So, let me know what you think, and I'll pass it along.

SonyBug

Faint heart neer won fair lady!

jerryc41 Loc: Catskill Mts of NY

Right! "Better to have loved and lost..."

tscali

I live in a 55+ community in Florida and know a number of woman who have lost their husbands. They would love to meet a man who is caring and respects a woman as your friend obviously does. Rather than go to a third person I would suggest that your friend ask her what are her wishes for the future; does she see or wish for another man in her life. Based on her answers, he will know without committing himself. Hope this helps. Good luck and God Bless.

warzone

Maybe she feels the same, but women of that age expect men to ask. They don’t ask because they don’t want to seem like brazen hussies. Ask her out for coffee, see how that goes. Coffee is non specific. Friends have coffee all the time. At 70, we have lived more years than we have left. Go for it.

lone ranger Loc: Port Saint Lucie, Florida

well said, and oh so true........

fourg1b2006 Loc: Long Island New York

I think asking her out for coffee is a great idea. I would try that.

lone ranger Loc: Port Saint Lucie, Florida

I agree!!.I"m 72 and my girlfriend is 61.............

jerryc41 Loc: Catskill Mts of NY

Thanks. I told him about the same thing. Make a small move and see how she responds.

lone ranger Loc: Port Saint Lucie, Florida

I"ll bet she will be thrilled........

davefales Loc: Virginia

How about "would you like to grab a cup of coffee/tea and discuss the world?"

boberic Loc: Quiet Corner, Connecticut. Ex long Islander

Maybe he should grow some "onions" and simply ask her out for dinner.

lone ranger Loc: Port Saint Lucie, Florida

excellent advice.........I"m sure she would be thrilled......

repleo Loc: Boston

Reminds me of the story about a similar couple. After hanging out together for years he finally says ' I think we should get married'.

'Sure who would have us at our age' she replied.

krashdragon

Oh for petes sake. Tell him just to ask her out.
If he doesnt ask, she cant say no... Or Yes!
Oh, I'm 75 and have a 65 yr old b.f.
Mentally, I'm still 17 or 27 or something like that.... 😁😁😁😁