Myths about introverts.
mullumby wrote:
Great list of myths about introverts
Myth #1 Introverts dont like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just dont talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they wont shut up for days.
Myth #2 Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They dont interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Dont worry about being polite.
Myth #3 Introverts are rude.
Introverts often dont see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 Introverts dont like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, youre in.
Myth #5 Introverts dont like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just dont like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, dont need to be there for long to get it. Theyre ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth #6 Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they dont have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They dont follow the crowd. Theyd prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They dont make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. Its not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, its just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 Introverts dont know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth #10 Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot fix themselves and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.
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I was going to reply but, I guess I prefer to keep my own council.
I'm an extrovert to the 10th degree, my wife is an introvert
A few years ago I was in a management class of about 25 people. We took a test to see who were the introverts and who were the extroverts. Interestly, it split the class in half.
They then put us on opposites side of the classroom and gave us a scenario. Your being sent to Napa, CA for a confernence for two days. The conference is only one day, so you have time off. Plan your day and write down what you plan to do on an eisel board.
As a bunch of extroverts, we had all kind of things planned. Take the wine train, see a movie, take a walk along the river, etc.
At the end of the session, we showed the introverts what we had wrote. What did they plan? Read a book, relax by the pool, have a nice dinner, ect. Totally opposite of what the extroverts had wrote.
After being married for over 20 years, I now understand my wife. When we go camping, I'm off and running. I fish, hike, chase the kids, etc. My wife is perfectly content just to hang out at the camp and just watch. Go figure....
That is so good! How can I print it out? Or is there a web source for it. Fits me pretty well, that's for sure.
We have more fun than most sane people.
Do you know your Myers-Briggs Type? I'm an ISTP, an Introvert, Sensor, Thinker, Perceiver. So I already knew most of what you posted.
Thank you.
mullumby wrote:
Great list of myths about introverts
Myth #1 Introverts dont like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just dont talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they wont shut up for days.
Myth #2 Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They dont interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Dont worry about being polite.
Myth #3 Introverts are rude.
Introverts often dont see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 Introverts dont like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, youre in.
Myth #5 Introverts dont like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just dont like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, dont need to be there for long to get it. Theyre ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth #6 Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they dont have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They dont follow the crowd. Theyd prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They dont make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. Its not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, its just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 Introverts dont know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth #10 Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot fix themselves and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.
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melismus wrote:
I am INTP.
Ah, you're a scientist or thinker. INTPs and ISTPs are quite similar in some regards.
As an introvert, I am questioning why I need to be "fixed"???
Great list...I am one too. This shows that introverts work well with other introverts. However, in every group there that one extrovert who talks a lot and is not thinking nor creative in their approach to the situation, making the meetings take longer than it should. I mean what can be accomplished in 10 minutes takes an hour when those extroverts get involved.
It is not about being fixed, but about being understood.
ExTech2 wrote:
As an introvert, I am questioning why I need to be "fixed"???
phlash46
Loc: Westchester County, New York
dlmorris wrote:
That is so good! How can I print it out? Or is there a web source for it. Fits me pretty well, that's for sure.
Higlight it and copy it and then paste in a Word (or similar) document.
mullumby wrote:
Great list of myths about introverts
Myth #1 Introverts dont like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just dont talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they wont shut up for days.
Myth #2 Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They dont interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Dont worry about being polite.
Myth #3 Introverts are rude.
Introverts often dont see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 Introverts dont like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, youre in.
Myth #5 Introverts dont like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just dont like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, dont need to be there for long to get it. Theyre ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth #6 Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they dont have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They dont follow the crowd. Theyd prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They dont make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. Its not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, its just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 Introverts dont know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth #10 Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot fix themselves and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.
Great list of myths about introverts br br Myth #... (
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Thanks for posting this list. Maybe you already know this, but here are two interesting sites for more information about introverts -
http://www.quietrev.com.
Also, Susan Cain's presentation on TED.talks -
http://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts
melismus wrote:
I am INTP.
Me too!
Understand we are about 3% of the population. Smallest group of the Meyers-Briggs temperment types.
So Be It. That's the way God wired us up and he knows what he is doing - more than any of us.
I didn't know that, Bruce. There are 16 types, so average group is 6.67%. I bet ESTJ is largest. Yeah, I like the idea of being in smallest group.
Paul
One Jughead wrote:
Me too!
Understand we are about 3% of the population. Smallest group of the Meyers-Briggs temperment types.
So Be It. That's the way God wired us up and he knows what he is doing - more than any of us.
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