Wedding ring
Jul 1, 2015 06:34:47 #
Nobody knows what you are actually going through. I did go through a similar situation. It hurt and was the most difficult time of my life. What made it easier for me was to focus on my son. If you can hold back the anger and frustration and only express the good to your children, it might make this time bearable. I wish you and your kids the best of luck!
Jul 1, 2015 07:47:41 #
I know this is not easy, but don't beat yourself up over it, it's happen to the best of us, sometimes more than once! And yes, time will heal, I'm living proof!
Jul 1, 2015 07:54:22 #
frog
Loc: Carrollton, Texas
Sorry, to hear about that, been there and got the jacket. It does get better, and as I did 8 yrs. later ran into my now wife. Truly, things do change. God Bless.
Jul 1, 2015 08:07:48 #
paulrph1
Loc: Washington, Utah
hlmichel wrote:
I took off my wedding band around 8:00 or so last ... (show quote)
Haven't you noticed it is always the other guys fault. They create the problems for themselves yet when it comes to taking the blame they are never guilty. Kinda like the bank robber that robs the bank and then says he is innocent and the cops made the mistake of arresting him.
Jul 1, 2015 08:13:06 #
Not taking away from the point here, which is 'life will go on'. Believe that. but....
Always remember a series on TV called 'Earth 2'. They were stranded on a planet that was the new Earth as the old was either gone or uninhabitable. There was a couple there who were married and in this 'time' you got married and the contract lasted for 2 years at which point both parties had to agree to resign. The guy was beside himself with worry because he finally realized he was in a wonderful relationship. At the end, besides the aliens hiding on the planet and having some connection to the kid in the group. The girl finally spoke up at the midnight hour and said 'yes'. I always thought the concept of a time limiting contract slightly interesting. How many would.
Always remember a series on TV called 'Earth 2'. They were stranded on a planet that was the new Earth as the old was either gone or uninhabitable. There was a couple there who were married and in this 'time' you got married and the contract lasted for 2 years at which point both parties had to agree to resign. The guy was beside himself with worry because he finally realized he was in a wonderful relationship. At the end, besides the aliens hiding on the planet and having some connection to the kid in the group. The girl finally spoke up at the midnight hour and said 'yes'. I always thought the concept of a time limiting contract slightly interesting. How many would.
Jul 1, 2015 08:18:47 #
Been there, too. I truly know what you're going through. Hang in there. It will get better - better than now, better than before.
Jul 1, 2015 08:27:23 #
I'm really sorry to hear this. I agree with the others: It could get nasty but it will get better. Hard to imagine now, but maybe she's doing you a favor in the long run. Put your focus on the kids' welfare.
Jul 1, 2015 08:36:58 #
Ask yourself this question. Would you rather face this problem now while your still young and active, or face it when you are old and sickly. It is far better to end life when you are with someone who really loves you than to be left when you truly need a trusting and loving partner. There are several very good no charge groups for people in your position to join for the purpose of getting through this (not for dating purposes). One of the best ones is a non denominational group run by the Catholic Church. Good luck.
Jul 1, 2015 09:01:23 #
Jul 1, 2015 09:26:25 #
Thank you all for your comments.
It's been a strange couple of days. We've talked a couple of times and are supposed to meet tonight to figure things out.
It's been a strange couple of days. We've talked a couple of times and are supposed to meet tonight to figure things out.
Jul 1, 2015 09:42:08 #
hlmichel wrote:
Thank you all for your comments.
It's been a strange couple of days. We've talked a couple of times and are supposed to meet tonight to figure things out.
It's been a strange couple of days. We've talked a couple of times and are supposed to meet tonight to figure things out.
So, not everything is disposable. But the more difficult thing is forgiveness. When people get in situations sometimes these are never talked about because we get used to hiding our feelings for many reasons but one is conditioning ourselves to thinking the 'other' doesn't care or want to care. Many times, not all, this is a bad assumption, but it goes along with the fact that as we get older in our relationships, we tend to not talk to each other and isolate ourselves into our own world.
So going into these discussions, you have to figure out if both parties want to move forward and what the issues are preventing that and se if the change is doable.
I hope that if you and your wife are in agreement that you want to continue, you can come to some forgiveness and change for the better.
Marriage is all about communication, give, take, change and forgiveness.
Like Melissa said (sung):
"Nothing stays the same as change"
Good Luck
Jul 1, 2015 09:55:51 #
I feel for you man. I know all too much what that's like. I was sitting in a Starbucks enjoying a cup of Joe when my woman and another man that she said was just a friend pulled up on motorcycles, parked, hugged, kissed, and walked in holding hands. They noticed me right away and actually offered to buy me another coffee. I declined, got up and went home. In my mind, we were done. I never made a scene over it because it wouldn't do any good.
hlmichel wrote:
I took off my wedding band around 8:00 or so last ... (show quote)
Jul 1, 2015 10:09:59 #
hlmichel wrote:
Her family in California was starting to suspect something and she had been hiding. Now it's out and she hates me for telling them.
What a mess.
What a mess.
My sympathies. Blaming the victim is a common practice.
Jul 1, 2015 10:12:01 #
jeep_daddy wrote:
I feel for you man. I know all too much what that's like. I was sitting in a Starbucks enjoying a cup of Joe when my woman and another man that she said was just a friend pulled up on motorcycles, parked, hugged, kissed, and walked in holding hands.
What a shame. I guess I'm lucky I had 46 good years.
Jul 1, 2015 10:58:57 #
hlmichel wrote:
I took off my wedding band around 8:00 or so last night. I didn't do a FB status update to mark the occasion.
It's been more than 12 hours and there is still an indention and a lighter stripe of skin to remind me where it was.
By this time next week, both should be gone.
It's been more than 12 hours and there is still an indention and a lighter stripe of skin to remind me where it was.
By this time next week, both should be gone.
Sometimes I have found in this trip through life, that something happens that you think is the absolute worst thing that could possibly happen, but, in the end, it turns out for the best and Fate has actually done you a very big favor.
"Sorrow looks back, Worry looks around, Faith Looks up." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
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