Today's Topic: Friends
Jul 4, 2022 09:50:56 #
Do you have any "TV Friends"? When you see friends on TV, they seem to be nothing like real-life friends. Think about Jerry Seinfeld and George Costanza or Lucy and Ethel. And, of course, there nis the TV show "Friends." Without those friendships, the shows would stall.
When I was a young, there were lots of kids in the neighborhood, and we spent all day together doing things. By the time high school rolled around, the group got smaller and less active. Now, I have lots of "friends," but it's not the same. We don't spend much time together, and we're not like TV Friends. As people get older, they seem to become more isolated. Friends tend to gather for an event, but not so much on a daily basis. We have places to go and things to do, so there is less time for getting together. Still, I know I have friends I can count on if I need help with something.
Comments?
When I was a young, there were lots of kids in the neighborhood, and we spent all day together doing things. By the time high school rolled around, the group got smaller and less active. Now, I have lots of "friends," but it's not the same. We don't spend much time together, and we're not like TV Friends. As people get older, they seem to become more isolated. Friends tend to gather for an event, but not so much on a daily basis. We have places to go and things to do, so there is less time for getting together. Still, I know I have friends I can count on if I need help with something.
Comments?
Jul 4, 2022 09:55:34 #
Jul 4, 2022 10:08:28 #
Manglesphoto wrote:
Nope, no TV friends!!!
As I suggested, friends like you see on TV aren't a thing. Some people think that's how friendships work, and they get depressed when they don't have those "TV Friends."
Jul 5, 2022 07:08:28 #
jerryc41 wrote:
As I suggested, friends like you see on TV aren't a thing. Some people think that's how friendships work, and they get depressed when they don't have those "TV Friends."
Don't even start with that "place where everyone knows your name"!
Jul 5, 2022 08:05:34 #
Stephan G wrote:
Don't even start with that "place where everyone knows your name"!
Ah, yes, remembering his name as a "friend" is approaching you.
Jul 5, 2022 08:41:42 #
So true “less time for getting together” even though this is the very glue that keeps friendships together
Jul 5, 2022 08:42:22 #
raypep wrote:
So true “less time for getting together” even though this is the very glue that keeps friendships together
Well, there's always email. : )
Jul 5, 2022 09:10:21 #
Like Jerry first cited, I had bunches of friends as a youth. However, the number got thinned as I grew up, headed in a different direction career- and marriage- -wise. Yes, career and marriage opened up new friendships, but over time, I found that professional friendships were anchored only by common professional knowledge/lore. And most of those haven't survived retirement.
I probably fit the mantra that we all shed friends over time, until we get to a few really close friends (two, three, four), more close friends (maybe six, or so), and finally lots of folks I most properly refer to as acquaintances.
I probably fit the mantra that we all shed friends over time, until we get to a few really close friends (two, three, four), more close friends (maybe six, or so), and finally lots of folks I most properly refer to as acquaintances.
Jul 5, 2022 09:10:59 #
I had a "Friends" group of friends back in the '70's. We were always together doing things and swapping relationship partners around within the group. We were literally brothers and sisters. Today, I remain close to only one member the rest having gone separate ways, as I have. On the other hand, one was in town recently and came for a visit; the first time I saw her in over 20 years, and guess what? We fell into our old friendship pattern, as if we had never been apart.
We put a lot of effort into relationships when we're young perhaps because new relationships are more fragile. At our age, my past friends and I have enough history that the passage of time will do little to change our relationship. So yes, as we get older I suppose we put less efforts into our friendships and allow them to lapse, but that's not to say there won't always be a connection that can easily be reestablished.
We put a lot of effort into relationships when we're young perhaps because new relationships are more fragile. At our age, my past friends and I have enough history that the passage of time will do little to change our relationship. So yes, as we get older I suppose we put less efforts into our friendships and allow them to lapse, but that's not to say there won't always be a connection that can easily be reestablished.
Jul 5, 2022 09:13:14 #
jerryc41 wrote:
Well, there's always email. : )
I think that there is a "Like" button in Facebook.
(PS., Don't have Facebook.)
Jul 5, 2022 09:24:34 #
Stephan G wrote:
I think that there is a "Like" button in Facebook.
(PS., Don't have Facebook.)
(PS., Don't have Facebook.)
I'm not familiar enough with FB to know about a "Like" button.
Jul 5, 2022 10:04:21 #
jerryc41 wrote:
I'm not familiar enough with FB to know about a "Like" button.
My source are family who use Facebook. My fingers typed it in as 'Fakebook'. Subliminal thinking?
I might be in error.
Jul 5, 2022 10:22:51 #
Stephan G wrote:
My source are family who use Facebook. My fingers typed it in as 'Fakebook'. Subliminal thinking?
I might be in error.
I might be in error.
Funny
Jul 5, 2022 10:27:58 #
To jerryc41 and others: My mother once said, "One of the bad things about getting old, is that all your friends die." That has proven to be very true.
Jul 5, 2022 12:18:45 #
jerryc41 wrote:
Do you have any "TV Friends"? When you ... (show quote)
Interesting, Jerry. Admittedly, I always have been quite different from most. I never have had a lot of friends - because I didn't want a lot. I would have one "friend' with whom I could talk basketball; another, motorcycles; another, computers; and so on. There have been very few with whom I could talk about anything! Additionally, when I moved from one area to another, even, say, within the City of Los Angeles, my friends in the previous area would think I had dropped off the edge of the earth, because I would just make new friends in the new area. And I do have to admit, most of them probably could more precisely be identified as acquaintances. But that's the way I like it! I have too many things of interest to me, to spend much time in idle chatter. My first wife believed she owed conversation to anyone who wished to talk with her. I, not so. I'm generally silent if there's nothing to say.
Loren - in Beautiful Baguio City
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