Quixdraw Loc: x

Papa J posted a wonderful meal he made for his Mother in Law after his Father in Law Passed away very recently. Oddly enough, this tied in directly with a conversation my Wife and I had over dinner last night. A number of members of her Quilting Club have lost their Husbands, one she is fairly close to, quite recently. She suggested that I make a dish for the lady which she would deliver at an event next week end. I am certainly good with that, but proposed that I make a little extra at every main meal for a week and deliver that frozen in disposable containers, clearly marked with contents and date. It is difficult to got to much trouble cooking for just yourself, I certainly find it so. There is also a known relationship between depression and appetite. My idea is provide a number of meals to be eaten as needed. Obviously in the case of a relative, there would be invitations to meals at home and at restaurants, a long term effort. This is a Club friend, so a little different. What ideas do you have to handle similar situations?

Chicago312 Loc: Western suburb, Chicago

I would defer to your wife’s recommendations assuming she knows this lady better than you. One dish is likely enough assuming other folks may be offering food as well.

Quixdraw Loc: x

Good point! Thanks!

JimmyTB

That's a generous and creative idea. Like Chicago312 suggested have your wife make sure it would be appropriate. But sometimes widows/widowers have an overabundance of food for a few days where your idea may keep her going for the following week. She will get back to cooking herself I'm sure but I think you've thought a bit outside the box as the saying goes.

Quixdraw Loc: x

Thanks for your input! Appreciate it.

Horseart Loc: Alabama

That's a wonderful idea you had. A few frozen meals might help. The main thing is to check on her often. I know from experience. When my husband passed away 2 1/2 years ago, I had plenty of food brought to the house. I barely nibbled. I gave food to the neighbors. When people called, I told them I was doing OK. Truth was I was grieving so deeply that I sat in the dark day and night, wouldn't eat or drink and after 2 months wound up in the hospital barely alive. Almost no BP, totally dehydrated and kidney failure. Drs didn't think I'd make it through the night. When I came out of the hospital, I still didn't want food but I had to make myself eat small meals 5 times a day. I didn't want to cook but if I did, I made enough to freeze 4 or 5 packs so I wouldn't have to cook a small amount often. Your idea would help a lot! After 2 1/2 years, I still find it hard to cook for one. Bless you and your wife for being so kind.

Quixdraw Loc: x

Thank you so much for sharing your perspective and experience. So sorry for your loss.