sjb3 wrote:
...Fighting depression is harder than ever, and photography has been on the lowest flame of the back burner. In spite of all this, and the reason I'm doing this post, is because by God I don't want to give up!
Then, don't.
Depression is a major PITA.
It clouds your perception of EVERYTHING!
Sucks, quite honestly.
Forget the camera, at first.
You need to SEE, not LOOK.
Looking keeps you from bumping into the furniture.
Seeing is a whole 'nother kettle of fish.
Start simply.
Pick up whatever glass from which you are drinking and SEE it.
What shape?
What details?
How does it catch the light?
Is it dull?
Is it shiny?
Is it transparent, translucent or opaque?
Round or square?
Are there patterns on it that the manufacturer didn't intend?
Does it resemble any other object?
Hundreds of questions are possible.
Turn the thing to a different attitude and observe it, again.
What changed?
Depression will make you want to just throw up your hands and say to Hades with it.
Recapture the fresh perception of seeing something for the first time.
After a while, it gets easier and you become so interested in the thousands of ways to see what is around you that you don't have time for depression.
It is hard, at first, but well worth the effort.
Look at your wife, both literally and with your mind's eye.
Literally, she is suffering dementia.
In your mind's eye, she is the same as she was in 1983.
What is your favorite view of her face?
From the front?
From the side?
From above?
Which view, now, shows the woman she was, then, most strongly?
Why?
How does the light on her face change when she moves or as time passes throughout the day?
The woman you married is still there, although she may be buried deep in the dementia, and you are still in love with her.
Find whatever scrap you can and recapture the beauty that made you fall in love with her, in the first place.
Warning: the process can be painful, but it is well worth it, as it not only beats down the depression, it helps deal with her dementia.
Most importantly of all, keep us updated.
Folks here may tear each others opinions apart on a regular basis, but they really do care about the UHH family and you are a part of that family.
Don't hesitate to rail online.
With the database of life experience on this forum, there is no dragon we cannot slay.
Now, move out and I'll meet you on the high ground.