Vietnam Vet wrote:
And I guess your bad understanding of what the bible says about judging others
You're probably referring to Matthew 7:1 where it says, "Do not judge lest you be judged".
This passage has erroneously been used to suggest that believers should never evaluate or criticize anyone for anything. Today, people hate absolutes, especially theological and moral absolutes, and such simplistic interpretation provides a convenient escape from confrontation. People in modern society, including many professing Christians, tend to resist dogmatism and strong convictions about right and wrong. Folks prefer to speak of an all-inclusive love, compromise, ecumenism, and unity.
This passage nor any other part of Scripture does not teach that we are never to evaluate, criticize, or condemn the actions or teachings of another person.
If this part of the greatest sermon by our Lord teaches anything, it teaches His followers to be discerning and perceptive in what they believe and in what they do. They must make every effort to judge between truth and falsehood, between the internal and the external, between reality and sham, between true righteousness and false righteousness, in short, between God's ways and all other ways.
In the context of this sermon, what Jesus here forbids is self-righteous, officious, hasty, unmerciful, prejudiced, and unwarranted condemnation based on human standards and human understanding.
In particular, that's what the Pharisees were doing.
If you want to get a better understanding of this whole "judgment thing", maybe you could get your Pastor/wife to teach and preach on it. However, to get it right it would require actual study of God's Word.