Bridezilla? (Page 4): Any Drama or attention plays very negative if you react. Offer a product and focus on that... All feedback is good. If she has concerns, then ask her to explain...

catchlight.. Loc: Wisconsin USA- Halden Norway

Any Drama or attention plays very negative if you react. Offer a product and focus on that... All feedback is good.

If she has concerns, then ask her to explain and offer what you have as a rebuttal. Then give her your solution that will best fit her needs. It may just be a simple change in post prepossessing.

Walk away, and you will shoot yourself in the foot, listening is most important.

Silence can be more powerful than words, if you are willing to listen. All she really wants are her expectations met for the money she is spending...

The challenge will be worth it because it elevates your skill level and, if you pull it off your confidence goes to the moon...

dsmeltz Loc: Philadelphia

fotoman150 wrote:

Ok. I thought about recommending another photographer but I don’t want any of my associates to have a bad experience.

Well then maybe this

"I believe another photographer may provide a service more to your liking."???
(Directed at the bride.)

Bride: "Who would YOU recommend, then, huh?"

You: "No one I consider a friend, but YOU might try Craig's List."

mizzee Loc: Boston,Ma

If the bride doesn’t like it, her momma won’t like it. And if momma don’t like it... Run! Think of it this way, if the bride is cranky now, think what she’ll be like on the day at peak stress.

rond-photography Loc: Connecticut

Longshadow wrote:

"I believe another photographer may provide a service more to your liking."???
(Directed at the bride.)

Great answer. I don't shoot weddings generally, but got talked into doing one for my wife's friend. It was very awkward, as the bride did not want a lot of pictures of her or the party, but more shots of the reception. I often wish I had just turned her down.

TomC. Loc: Bel Air, MD

fotoman150 wrote:

I just finished a wedding consultation. br br I’... (show quote)

I think if I were you. I'd turn the shoot down and relieve the stress immediately. My second thought is I feel very sorry for the groom.

ELNikkor

Sounds like you are sensing a red flag. For your own peace of mind, call them asap and tell them you will not be able to shoot their wedding, no explanation necessary. If you shoot it, the bride may bash the photos hoping for some kind of a refund, it wouldn't be the first time...

davefales Loc: Virginia

I assume your potential clients are much younger. How about "From our initial interview, I sense I cannot provide you the experience you are seeking and deserve." (period, no further discussion required?)

To the friendly groom...and let him figure out what the problem is.

Good luck.

fotoman150

mizzee wrote:

If the bride doesn’t like it, her momma won’t like it. And if momma don’t like it... Run! Think of it this way, if the bride is cranky now, think what she’ll be like on the day at peak stress.

I know right?

fotoman150

davefales wrote:

I assume your potential clients are much younger. How about "From our initial interview, I sense I cannot provide you the experience you are seeking and deserve." (period, no further discussion required?)

To the friendly groom...and let him figure out what the problem is.

Good luck.

No this couple is on their second marriage and they have several kids each.

fotoman150

ELNikkor wrote:

Sounds like you are sensing a red flag. For your own peace of mind, call them asap and tell them you will not be able to shoot their wedding, no explanation necessary. If you shoot it, the bride may bash the photos hoping for some kind of a refund, it wouldn't be the first time...

I haven’t signed an agreement and they haven’t paid anything yet. I’m going to wait and see if they turn me down. Then I won’t have to tell them anything but OK thank you for considering me I wish you the best.

fotoman150

TomC. wrote:

I think if I were you. I'd turn the shoot down and relieve the stress immediately. My second thought is I feel very sorry for the groom.

I know. He’s such a nice guy. He’s got a great personality but she is so high maintenance it’s not even funny.

fotoman150

rond-photography wrote:

Great answer. I don't shoot weddings generally, but got talked into doing one for my wife's friend. It was very awkward, as the bride did not want a lot of pictures of her or the party, but more shots of the reception. I often wish I had just turned her down.

Reception shots are the easiest ones in my opinion.

fotoman150

mizzee wrote:

If the bride doesn’t like it, her momma won’t like it. And if momma don’t like it... Run! Think of it this way, if the bride is cranky now, think what she’ll be like on the day at peak stress.

Exactly!

TomC. Loc: Bel Air, MD

fotoman150 wrote:

I know. He’s such a nice guy. He’s got a great personality but she is so high maintenance it’s not even funny.

markie1425 Loc: Bryn Mawr, PA

fotoman150 wrote:

I just finished a wedding consultation.

...

I’ve got a bad feeling about this one. What’s the best way to tell them that it’s not a good fit? I’ve never done that before in all my years as a wedding photographer.

I had similar issues as a web developer, clients wanting me to build sites that were just flat-out against good principles. No explanation necessary.

No amount of compensation is worth your personal grief, plus damage to your professional reputation.

So listen to the kids and that little voice behind your ear.