My wife and I have been divorced for several years and neither one us has remarried. We are good friends and over each of our birthdays we get together for two weeks and take a trip. It started when we were married. This year over her birthday we went to Yellowstone NP. Then on my birthday, we hiked mountain rivers in North Carolina and Tennesse. The kids are in their late 30's and early 40's and they still love mom and dad. We are scattered all across the country but we get together every other year for Christmas.
You would be very surprised by my family. Divorced spouses, remarried spouses and all kids are part of an expanded, extended family. We celebrate all birthdays, holidays, ... even some vacations, together. Nothing but love & friendship permeates the environment. It's created by intention and commitment to NOT live with anger, but to live with love. We created it so the kids were not in the position of having to make a "choice". It started 41 years ago and has only gotten better. Our kids & grand kids have it as their model. I'm sure it will continue to be the model.
Mark
I am not divorced since we never married.
But I do have two boys with her, and I want to make my part of the coolest and greatest dad. We live in different towns, 100km away, but it does not stopp me from going regularly every second weekend for normal visit, but besides all that we do Christmas, now for Easter we go to a cabin up the mountain with both part of my family and hers, and other events. Even thou our past has it's turbulence, we had to put aside all that and only think about a future. Even thou it looks like we should be a couple again, it will never happen. And we are both aware the facts that both will end up in a new relationship, and that will not be a a reason for not interacting like today. The kids appreciate it, both my family and hers seems to be happy about the good tone we have, and they all look for keeping this up.
So it all comes down to compromise, let go the past, and think about the future when "it's complicated"
C :)
No way. I live 1500 miles away from her and that is good.
Forgiveness is the key. My ex-called me over to her house saying something needed to be fixed. When I walked in the door she put her arms around me and ask me to forgive her. It took a week for me to ask her to forgive me. Now we are best of friends. We are 2,000 miles apart and talk on the phone mostly about the kids and our up and coming trip in June. We decided to do a extra trip this year and go to Wisconsin for a week. The past is passed, its the future that counts.
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