dadcowell wrote:
Bob,
I did enjoy the experience. The biggest issue I had is that my wife stayed home because she had no husband to share the wedding with.
Bill
My lovely bride of 30 years wants nothing to do with cameras. Her dad was my photography mentor over 30 years ago, I married her so I could start getting paid. HA HA . Don't tell her I said that.
Now, with that being said, I actually use her a lot in weddings, and she's a huge help. She loves being the "detail" person. Her job, when I line up a shot, is to spot those pesky stray hairs, crooked collars, etc. Things that I don't normally see to well looking through a tiny viewfinder. I try to catch them all, but she really enjoys being able to show me up in the details department.
You might want to consider trying the same thing. Butter her up, by saying, "I wish I had your eye for detail on this shot, you would have saved me from having to throw out this photo, or take the extra time to photoshop it so much." At least for me, it is much nicer to spend the day with her helping me, than knowing she's sitting at home, probably grumbling that I get to "have fun and get paid" while she sits and does Sudoku puzzles.
We also have an event portrait booth that we set up at the receptions, to take nice family photos in front of a backdrop (not film strips with funny hats) She handles all the cropping, viewing, sales, and money.
I don't do "one person shows" as far as wedding photography. It is offered as one of our "tiers of service" but if that's all they want, I normally find a way to pass on the job. We use a minimum of 2 shooters, and "she who must be obeyed." It seriously makes the whole day less stressful, more profitable (with the portrait booth), and generally much better coverage for the bride and groom.
Just a thought, if you are crazy enough to want to join the throng of crazy wedding photographers.
bk