Getting old??? I was at a bowling center and decided to take a break when another individual took break. He was in his 30's I'd say. Looking for something to say he said to me "Hey old...

Jerry Kos Loc: Milwaukee, Wi

I was at a bowling center and decided to take a break when another individual took break. He was in his 30's I'd say. Looking for something to say he said to me "Hey old timer how is it going". In that short sentence I grow 20 years older. And I'm 73 before he said that. :cry: :cry:

Manglesphoto Loc: 70 miles south of St.Louis

Jerry Kos wrote:

I was at a bowling center and decided to take a break when another individual took break. He was in his 30's I'd say. Looking for something to say he said to me "Hey old timer how is it going". In that short sentence I grow 20 years older. And I'm 73 before he said that. :cry: :cry:

Don't let it get to you, You should be proud to be an Old Timer , I'M 76 and damned proud of it !!!!

Collie lover Loc: St. Louis, MO

Jerry Kos wrote:

I was at a bowling center and decided to take a break when another individual took break. He was in his 30's I'd say. Looking for something to say he said to me "Hey old timer how is it going". In that short sentence I grow 20 years older. And I'm 73 before he said that. :cry: :cry:

I don't like having a young person, especially a male, calling me ma'am. I know they're trying to be polite, but would they can someone in their 20s, 30s or even 40s ma'am? What if I called them "kid" or "little boy/girl"? I don't think they would like it.

Just because a woman is over a certain age, doesn't mean she wants to be called ma'am. It makes me feel old.

If addressing me, it isn't necessary to say ma'am or whatever. Just say, politely, what needs to be said.

robertjerl Loc: Corona, California

Collie lover wrote:

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You are on the fringes of the southern influence. Ma'am is the polite way to address any female older than you who doesn't have a more specific title like; mom, aunt etc. When it is obvious there is an age difference using things like girl, miss etc is considered poor manners or even an insult. And as to just saying things without a title for the person being spoken to, that is considered abrupt, impersonal and poor manners also.

Collie lover Loc: St. Louis, MO

robertjerl wrote:

You are on the fringes of the southern influence. Ma'am is the polite way to address any female older than you who doesn't have a more specific title like; mom, aunt etc. When it is obvious there is an age difference using things like girl, miss etc is considered poor manners or even an insult. And as to just saying things without a title for the person being spoken to, that is considered abrupt, impersonal and poor manners also.

I understand what you're saying. But I feel offended when called ma'am. A younger woman wouldn't be called ma'am.

I think I can say something to someone without being abrupt and not using ma'am, sir, etc. It's how it's said.

Ol' Frank Loc: Orlando,

robertjerl wrote:

You are on the fringes of the southern influence. Ma'am is the polite way to address any female older than you who doesn't have a more specific title like; mom, aunt etc. When it is obvious there is an age difference using things like girl, miss etc is considered poor manners or even an insult. And as to just saying things without a title for the person being spoken to, that is considered abrupt, impersonal and poor manners also.

You are correct. I was born and raised in the South by Southern parents to say "Ma'm or Sir" to anyone older than me. Don't do that much anymore since there aren't many people older than me.

Jerry Kos Loc: Milwaukee, Wi

Collie lover wrote:

I understand what you're saying. But I feel offended when called ma'am. A younger woman wouldn't be called ma'am.

I think I can say something to someone without being abrupt and not using ma'am, sir, etc. It's how it's said.

For a women isn't it better to say "Miss"? I know I've spent a lot of time in the South and the common is "Sir", "Ma'am". I always liked that.

krashdragon

Unless you're on personal terms with the speaker, then calling the lady Miss Mary (example) is a polite way of being friendly to older ladies without sounding condesending.

SmittyOne Loc: California

Collie lover wrote:

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I was taught to call all women, with whom I am not acquainted "Mam", as a term of politeness. But then again, that was when I was a kid, some 80 years ago, in the midwest.

Collie lover Loc: St. Louis, MO

Jerry Kos wrote:

For a women isn't it better to say "Miss"? I know I've spent a lot of time in the South and the common is "Sir", "Ma'am". I always liked that.

I would prefer someone say "Miss" to me rather than "Ma'am". If I need to say something to a woman I don't know, I say "Miss" no matter their age. I say "Sir" to a man for the same reason.

Jerry Kos Loc: Milwaukee, Wi

Collie lover wrote:

I would prefer someone say "Miss" to me rather than "Ma'am". If I need to say something to a woman I don't know, I say "Miss" no matter their age. I say "Sir" to a man for the same reason.

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I've always said "Miss" to a female I don't know. And "Sir" to a male I don't know. I know when I was in my 20's I hated it when someone would call me "Son" and I let them know it. Of course I just got back from being in Korea.
:D :D

Collie lover Loc: St. Louis, MO

Jerry Kos wrote:

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I've always said "Miss" to a female I don't know. And "Sir" to a male I don't know. I know when I was in my 20's I hated it when someone would call me "Son" and I let them know it. Of course I just got back from being in Korea.
:D :D

Agree. What if they had called you "young man"?

robertjerl Loc: Corona, California

I once heard a "feminist" go off on someone for calling her "Miss". Something about not wanting to be classified by her marital status.

And if I am not mistaken in the military all female officers above you in rank are addressed as Ma'am if you don't use their rank as a form of address. so "Yes Ma'am, I understand the order!" or "Yes Major, I understand the order."

firtree Loc: Florida, USA

Collie lover wrote:

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You should just be happy you get "ma'am" instead of "Hey, Old Timer"!

EdM Loc: FN30JS

some people just love to find an excuse to be unhappy... "maam" is a title of respect... would you rather be called "honey, sweetie", or any number of less respectful titles??
to be offended by "maam" puts you, in my book, in the same tribe as Gloric Steinem,...... you know, the one with the pointy hat.... I have a pet rock with more female charastics than that 'un.. In my book, feminists,.....ain't...