I visited a nearby city this week and went out doing photography in the downtown area. As I walked along I photographed an old movie theater up the street. From behind me someone said, "If you take my picture, I'll beat your ass."

I turned and answered, "I won't take your picture, I promise. And I would always ask your permission before taking your picture."

"Why would you do that?"

"Out of respect for you and anyone I photograph. It's a matter of respect."

You are right some may not want their photos taken. Most of the folks that I do I want them to be as natural as can be. But there is times when I need to get up close to get the shot. This man asked me not to get his face I did respect him. I asked if I could just do his hands. After we did shake hands and he felt comfortable with me and took his flask out and got a good swallow. Then he handed me this flower which I keep in my bedroom.
This conversation took place between me and a person who is easily dismissed in our society. He started crying and said that no one respected him. I told him that I did. I never took his photo, that's not why I was out, but I told him the truth. I never take a person's photo without their permission. For me it's all a matter of respect.

A few years ago I was in another city, doing the same thing, when a prostitute told me not to photograph her. We had the same basic conversation. She told me that I was in a bad neighborhood, but nobody would bother me as long as I was with her. She walked with me for a number of blocks, we talked, as drug dealers approached she told them that I was cool and they didn't have to worry; they turned around and walked away (and, no, I did not photograph them). After I finished with my photographic expedition, I thanked her, shook her hand, and she told me that she would walk with me any time I was in her city.

Aretha is right: R-E-S-P-E-C-T