Love & Marriage: If you could do it all over again, would you have gotten married? Is there anyone that it didn't work out with that you regret until this day? I am absolutely in love...

Stef C Loc: Conshohocken (near philly) PA

If you could do it all over again, would you have gotten married? Is there anyone that it didn't work out with that you regret until this day?

I am absolutely in love with my best friend and girlfriend of three years, but we have a lot of trust issues and i'm fearful we're just setting ourselves up for a divorce or disappointment if we get married. I'm scared to take the leap based on those issues.

New York Steve Loc: St. Augustine, Florida

Stef C wrote:

If you could do it all over again, would you have gotten married? Is there anyone that it didn't work out with that you regret until this day?

I am absolutely in love with my best friend and girlfriend of three years, but we have a lot of trust issues and i'm fearful we're just setting ourselves up for a divorce or disappointment if we get married. I'm scared to take the leap based on those issues.

I was married for 27 years. It didn't take.

If there are trust issues, you need to resolve them before you get married. Period. If you don't, they will rip apart that very facet that every relationship absolutely has to have.

If there are questions of trust, no marriage will be as strong as it should be...

Wellhiem Loc: Sunny England.

The secret to any successful marriage, is loads and loads of sex. With as many different people as possible. I once used that line in a best man's speech. It went down, with the bride's parents, like a cup of cold vomit. :lol:

Black Bart Loc: Indiana

Stef C wrote:

If you could do it all over again, would you have gotten married? Is there anyone that it didn't work out with that you regret until this day?

I am absolutely in love with my best friend and girlfriend of three years, but we have a lot of trust issues and i'm fearful we're just setting ourselves up for a divorce or disappointment if we get married. I'm scared to take the leap based on those issues.

YES I have been with the same woman for more than 64 years.
From your post I have to say this marriage can not last.
You must work out the trust issues or it has NO chance of working.

TucsonCoyote Loc: Tucson AZ

Stef C wrote:

If you could do it all over again, would you have gotten married? Is there anyone that it didn't work out with that you regret until this day?

I am absolutely in love with my best friend and girlfriend of three years, but we have a lot of trust issues and i'm fearful we're just setting ourselves up for a divorce or disappointment if we get married. I'm scared to take the leap based on those issues.

You can't be over-thinking these things, life is too short ! :XD:
Just stick to photography and do like Wellhiem says ! :roll:

nicksr1125 Loc: Mesa, AZ

My wife has put up with me for 40 years. Trust is an absolute necessity in any marriage. It is 1 of the foundation stones of a successful marriage.

Mama.Janet

Everyone has their own tolerances of "trust issues" and I've learned that can change with dofferent relationships. You've heard friends complain about their spouses and wondered why they were upset, and then things happened and you can't believe they weren't upset. You need to honestly access if the issues are a deal breaker or not.

Tom G Loc: Atlanta, GA

Both must weigh the advantages and disadvantages of marriage. There are few advantages of getting married after the desire for children, and ability to have them, is past. The older one gets, the less sense it makes.

If you're lonely buy a new camera and further your photographic interests. A camera (pickup truck, car, motorcycle, boat, fishing rod, etc., etc.,) is far more dependable and fun than a new spouse.

You heard it here first.

lone ranger Loc: Port Saint Lucie, Florida

I"ve been there and done that. I wish you luck.......

COI Jack Loc: Missouri

It might work; it might not. Who the hell knows? I have been married 4 times, 30+ years with this one and I STILL don't know if it is going to work!

tlbuljac Loc: Oklahoma

I'll help relieve your pain. Send me her pics and cell phone number.

Stef C wrote:

If you could do it all over again, would you have gotten married? Is there anyone that it didn't work out with that you regret until this day?

I am absolutely in love with my best friend and girlfriend of three years, but we have a lot of trust issues and i'm fearful we're just setting ourselves up for a divorce or disappointment if we get married. I'm scared to take the leap based on those issues.

RiverNan Loc: Eastern Pa

26 years and still going.
seek counsel and work out the issues before you take the plunge. what agitates you know will only get worse if you don't resolve it.

Stef C wrote:

If you could do it all over again, would you have gotten married? Is there anyone that it didn't work out with that you regret until this day?

I am absolutely in love with my best friend and girlfriend of three years, but we have a lot of trust issues and i'm fearful we're just setting ourselves up for a divorce or disappointment if we get married. I'm scared to take the leap based on those issues.

RiverNan Loc: Eastern Pa

I disagree...it is nice to share your life and interests with someone else, with or without children, perhaps even more important without kids to occupy your time. Nice to know there is always someone you can count on...
good luck

Tom G wrote:

Both must weigh the advantages and disadvantages of marriage. There are few advantages of getting married after the desire for children, and ability to have them, is past. The older one gets, the less sense it makes.

If you're lonely buy a new camera and further your photographic interests. A camera (pickup truck, car, motorcycle, boat, fishing rod, etc., etc.,) is far more dependable and fun than a new spouse.

You heard it here first.

ntonkin Loc: western Upper Peninusla of Michigan

If she is in fact your best friend, how can you have trust issues? But if this is the case, I would say some very serious introspection is in order.

Stef C wrote:

If you could do it all over again, would you have gotten married? Is there anyone that it didn't work out with that you regret until this day?

I am absolutely in love with my best friend and girlfriend of three years, but we have a lot of trust issues and i'm fearful we're just setting ourselves up for a divorce or disappointment if we get married. I'm scared to take the leap based on those issues.

Ka2azman Loc: Tucson, Az

If its a trust issue, the marriage would not last, so don't get married.
Problem is not working things out between the two of you, rather the problem is the one with trust issues. They must get professional help on the issue because it doesn't matter who the person that has trust issues, is with; the problem will still remain. The baggage would be the same no matter who the other person is because it is inside the one that has trust issues and no one else can cure that particular persons problems other than themselves and that will take professionalism.