Whats your thoughts on "InLaws": Am I the only one to seem to be not getting along great with my inlaw, the (mother-in-law) Seems to me like the only one who tries to control...

dc-images Loc: Ohio

Am I the only one to seem to be not getting along great with my inlaw, the (mother-in-law) Seems to me like the only one who tries to control everything. And the rest just go along with her. UGHHHH!!! Will it ever get better??? I have been married for 6 years now. and it still sucks. I've just tried to ignor her stupidity. But it just eats at me, and I think she knows it.

JimH Loc: Western South Jersey, USA

Jokes about mothers-in-law must have some basis in truth. I've had three, two were fine, this one is.....well, not fine. But I live in an asylum here anyway, so what can ya do....

Wish I had better suggestions.

dc-images Loc: Ohio

JimH wrote:

Jokes about mothers-in-law must have some basis in truth. I've had three, two were fine, this one is.....well, not fine. But I live in an asylum here anyway, so what can ya do....

Wish I had better suggestions.

Maybe just move far, far away from her.....lol!! might solve a little bit of my problem anyway.

JStapel Loc: Suburban Pittsburgh

MIL lives with us...... On that note, I haven't done laundry or cleaned in about 5 years.

dc-images Loc: Ohio

JStapel wrote:

MIL lives with us...... On that note, I haven't done laundry or cleaned in about 5 years.

Well I'd hang myself if mine lived with us........lol!! Yeah I'd be the same as u though probably though. Just be cleaning up my own crap. cause she wouldnt touch it. thats how bad it is.

dc-images Loc: Ohio

dc-images wrote:

JStapel wrote:

MIL lives with us...... On that note, I haven't done laundry or cleaned in about 5 years.

Well I'd hang myself if mine lived with us........lol!! Yeah I'd be the same as u though probably though. Just be cleaning up my own crap. cause she wouldnt touch it. thats how bad it is.

mines not nice to "me"

JimH Loc: Western South Jersey, USA

When I moved here to where my now-wife lives, I also took on her mother, and, at the time, her daughter and son-in-law. They've since moved a block away with their 6-year old and 1-year old, but in February my brother-in-law came to stay. One big..happy...family....pass the thorazine, please.

huldap Loc: the Great Smokies

dc-images wrote:

JimH wrote:

Jokes about mothers-in-law must have some basis in truth. I've had three, two were fine, this one is.....well, not fine. But I live in an asylum here anyway, so what can ya do....

Wish I had better suggestions.

Maybe just move far, far away from her.....lol!! might solve a little bit of my problem anyway.

my mom is the controling one, I can not live anywhere near her, she stresses me out. My MIL is the sweetest thing. We live far away from both though.

dc-images Loc: Ohio

Here a little example of mine. She invites "US" over for dinner (not to bad, on her part. I'm thinking.) We get there, she has a plate made, good and ready for her husband. (which theres nothing wrong with that, its her husband.) She has a plate made for my husband "her son". And she has a plate made for my daughter, "her granddaughter". and she has a plate made for my son. "her grandson". And she looks at me and says its on the stove if you want any. (WHAT?!?!) really now tell me whats up with that.

huldap Loc: the Great Smokies

dc-images wrote:

Here a little example of mine. She invites "U... (show quote)

that would tick me off and I'd probably stop going there if it were me, and just send hubby and the kids. My husband has relatives here that I don't go visit, partly because the kids have no respect and partly because I feel like a piece of furniture there...totally ignored.

Lmarc Loc: Ojojona, Honduras

dc-images wrote:

JimH wrote:

Jokes about mothers-in-law must have some basis in truth. I've had three, two were fine, this one is.....well, not fine. But I live in an asylum here anyway, so what can ya do....

Wish I had better suggestions.

Maybe just move far, far away from her.....lol!! might solve a little bit of my problem anyway.

My ex-mil was a REAL PSYCHO so I can sympathize! :thumbdown:

I've been married to my present wife for twenty-three years and most of the in-laws are in Honduras and Brazil, so I really don't have a lot of problems with them! :lol: :lol:

fthomas Loc: Philippines

I got lucky and my Mother In Law is Japanese and from Okinawa. I would do anything in the world for her. She is one of the kindest, wisest and most caring persons I know. She lived with us her first three years in America. Wow, was it great. I miss her tons. I'm in California and she is in Florida now. Thanks Mom for always being there!

I love Fumiko! Sorry you are not as fortunate. Love and foregiveness goes a long ways.

Lmarc Loc: Ojojona, Honduras

fthomas wrote:

I got lucky and my Mother In Law is Japanese and from Okinawa. I would do anything in the world for her. She is one of the kindest, wisest and most caring persons I know. She lived with us her first three years in America. Wow, was it great. I miss her tons. I'm in California and she is in Florida now. Thanks Mom for always being there!

I love Fumiko! Sorry you are not as fortunate. Love and foregiveness goes a long ways.

AMEN!! :thumbup:

mommy115 Loc: California

dc-images wrote:

Here a little example of mine. She invites "U... (show quote)

Have you ever seen 'Everybody love Raymond'?

mommy115 Loc: California

Maybe it's time to sit down with her and in a nice, non-defensive voice ask her "what exactly is it about me that you hate so much". She probably doesn't even know the answer. In fact she could be so blind she doesn't realize she is being this way. If you can remain calm and non-confrontational during the conversation a wall may even come down just a tiny bit. (then again, maybe not, but at least you tried). If nothing works maybe just tell yourself every time she snubs you that you are fine, she is the one with the problem and don't give her the power to ruin your day (or life) by considering her behavior to have any importance to you. This is not easy to do but each time you do it, it will become more natural.