I expected nothing less in a response as clearly the OP does not have sufficient insight to understand why this is offensive.
I do laugh at myself. All the time.
“Humor” at the expense of women in general that relies on outdated mysogynistic concepts is unimaginative and puerile.
I am reminded of a female comedian’s observation that women are afraid men will kill them, and men are afraid that women will ridicule them.
Be afraid. Be very afraid.
I’m sure you meant this to be humorous, but it’s not. It’s sexist and insulting. Jokes and comments like this make UHH an uncomfortable environment for women.
Happy to say he responded to me finally last night and product should be sent shortly.
I will keep this group updated though😌
Thank you!!
The website page does not display on an iPhone or iPad 🙄
Thank you. Where is the contact page? I don’t see this on his website.
Has anyone had a good or poor experience with purchasing from this site? I ordered and was charged for bounce cards but have not received them. The site says items typically ship in 3 days from placing an order and the buyer is notified when the order ships. I reached out to their customer support two days ago but have no response. The only way to contact the seller is by email. I am concerned the seller may be ill or otherwise incapacitated as given the profile on his site and reputation he doesn’t seem to be a scammer.
Beautiful. Thank you for posting!
Gratuitous misogyny is offensive.
Excerpted from Wikipedia:
“The Ugly American is a 1958 political novel by Eugene Burdick and William Lederer. The book depicts the failures of the U.S. diplomatic corps, whose insensitivity to local language, culture, customs and refusal to integrate was in marked contrast to the polished abilities of Eastern Bloc (primarily Soviet) diplomacy and led to Communist diplomatic success overseas. The book caused a sensation in diplomatic circles. John F. Kennedy was so impressed with the book that he sent a copy to each of his colleagues in the United States Senate. The book was one of the biggest bestsellers in the U.S., has been in print continuously since it appeared, and is one of the most politically influential novels in all of American literature.
The book was published in the waning days of the Eisenhower administration. Reportedly as a result of the book, Eisenhower ordered an investigation of the U.S. foreign aid program. As the presidential campaign of 1960 heated up, the issues raised in the book became a campaign issue for the Democratic Party.
Lasting impacts in the Kennedy administration included President Kennedy's national physical fitness program, his statement of America's willingness to "bear any burden" in the Third World, the founding of the Peace Corps, the build-up of American Special Forces, and emphasis on counterinsurgency tactics in fighting communists in South Vietnam. According to British documentary film maker Adam Curtis, Senator and future U.S. President "John F. Kennedy was gripped by The Ugly American. In 1960, he and five other opinion leaders bought a large advertisement in The New York Times, saying that they had sent copies of the novel to every U.S. senator because its message was so important.”
The title entered the English language for a type of character portrayed in the book. The book is one of the leading best-sellers in the U.S., and one of a very few works of fiction that had a profound effect on American political debate and that had a lasting impact; as such, it is in the same league as Uncle Tom's Cabin and The Jungle.”
My reference to the book was intended to understand the OP’s behavior in a cultural and historical context. While the global political and economic landscape has certainly changed since the book’s publication, faith in American hegemony persists, and it is one of the reasons we have lost international credibility. The OP’s behavior seemed to reflect this faith on a personal, micro level. Our entitlement causes us to believe we can take what we want without regard for the autonomy of others.
One can certainly find individuals of all cultures and nationalities behaving rudely in public in the United States. However this does not resonate with the same social and political implications as when US citizens visit other countries and act as if the foreign cultural artifacts are ours for the taking. We cannot escape our history of imperialism, and our arrogance is causing us to lose the respect and credibility we once had in the global community.
Mark,
Fair point, I could have omitted the last sentence. I have not been to China, but I have traveled in other countries and parts of the US where customs are quite different from where I live. I have spent a lot of time pondering the question of permission to photograph, and permission to present images of people without their permission or knowledge of how it will be used. I find when I am shooting say a public performance, i do not ask permission of the individual performers. But I am expected to and do ask permission of the event producer. I often photograph young dancers backstage or in other informal settings and I ask their permission before shooting. I destroy pictures they don’t like. And I never publicly post or share without their parent’s permission. I am acutely aware that these are the same young girls who are dealing with a youth culture in which boys routinely expect girls to send them suggestive or nude photos to prove they “like” the boy. All too often these end up being circulated among others. It is important for young women and people in general to know that they have rights over their bodies and how they are represented, and I do not want to reinforce an expectation that they are expected or required to pose for the camera in order to be “seen.”
Some of the most interesting, compelling, and historically important photographs have been captured and published without permission of the subject, but sometimes these images used to represent those individuals in ways they might not represent themselves or wish to be seen. Sometimes these images are of public people and public events, sometimes private moments that happen in public. The questions of ownership, context, and representation do not have simple answers. Admittedly, asking permission before shooting may mean losing the moment. In these instances asking for permission afterward to use the photo may be one solution - also, offfering to share the image may be welcome. Unfortunately we have a long history of colonialism and exploitation of the “other” in these United States, and we act within and from this historical context. If I ask someone if I may take their photo and they explicitly say “no” or “yes, for a price,” and I sneak a photo without their consent or requested payment, that is a theft and a violation.
There are certainly people we see in public who draw particular attention to themselves in their dress or other aspects of appearance, and they may in fact be seeking attention. But I can’t assume that to always be the case.
I hope this reply more fully explains my response to the OP. I appreciate your feedback.
Railfan Bill,
I realize there are many different perspectives on street photography - when do we ask someone to take their photo, when do we take a photo without permission. Generally I believe it is most respectful to ask someone before taking a picture - and if they say no, then honor their wishes. In your case you asked the family, and they refused unless you gave them something in return. In this circumstance, sneaking their picture after they refused consent was exploitive. This is ugly American behavior 101.