Look, it's not about bokeh. Bokeh is great if used right and to throw a bride out of focus at the most special event in her life is not OK by any means. You have gotten a lot of good advice here, especially good from 2 of our hoggers. Learn from it and never throw another bride away at her own wedding! I am not a wedding photographer (I have done a few and they were very tiring, but the couples were pleased) but ALL of us know what wedding pictures should look like. They should be fabulous. No one here is trying to insult you or make you feel bad. Everyone is just telling you that you made mistakes and trying to help. I hope this thread has helped you see your mistakes and that you do much better from here on.

If I read your post correctly, it sounds like the bride was upset because a number of images of her were out of focus. And the groom was in focus. Kind of says it all.

I recently remarried, and when we got our proofs back from the professional photographer, most of the outdoor images were over exposed. I asked her what that was all about, and she said “oh, I’ve just started shooting images with an ethereal effect.”

Sometimes wedding photographers need to leave some of their creative photography skills at home.

I did wedding for about 10 years, until a hip problem made the 12 hour days untenable. Now might be a good time to review your own personal best practices.

There are many more things that could be added, but here a few suggestions based specifically on your present and prior posts.

I met with every bride and groom prior to the wedding, and showed them sample albums so they would understand my style of shooting to see if it met their needs.

I never shot a wedding without full equipment redundancy (cameras, flashes, cards, lenses, batteries) for both myself and my 2nd shooter. Additionally the cameras we used were capable of reasonably good high ISO performance.

Every proof set was carefully selected and renumbered in sequential order prior to giving them to the couple.

Now is the ideal time for you to look at your current practices and see if there is anything you would change based on your experience to date.

I hope the issues on this wedding are resolved to everyone's satisfaction, and that all your future efforts are successful.

Fotoman, First off, I have to say, your attitude sucks............calling the bride left brained(?) give me a break. The bride is the star of the show. She is the one to make happy, not you, not the groom. If you are shooting weddings with a camera that does not handle low light, your using the wrong camera. Not all weddings are going to be well lit. In the case of low light, never heard of a flash? Showing a website means absolutely nothing, everyone knows that website design and uploading is not done in one day and you have all the second chances in the world. This is someone's memories that you screwed up for "artistic interpretation".