Whoever said marry your lenses and date your camera is dead on!

What's your budget? I'll throw out some combo's.
I love my Nikon D5300 and have plenty of lenses.
With the D5300, I paid $320 used (the articulating screen is essential for me)
I would start out with a 35mm 1.8 (140 bucks or the 50mm f1.4 (used $285 - $350) Then a 18-140mm,or 70-300
if you want reach for outdoor wildlife. ($1100 for used - $1800 newer) If you can handle the weight get the 18-300?
Bigger budget? Go for the D500, get a 50mm f1.4, an 18-140ish size, and the new nikon 200-500. ($3600 bucks)

I shoot everything, indoor volleyball,landscapes,wildlife,senior pics etc. I doubt I'll need to upgrade soon, if I do
it will be to the D500 and get the Nikon 200-500 for better wildlife.
Want an all in one that has good reviews - Sony DSC-RX10 III. ($1400)

The new AF-P 10 - 20mm looks to be a f/4.5 vs. the f2.8 on the Tokina - that will make a huge difference
for interior and night pics.

I have the Tokina 11-16 2.8, works nice inside, gives you a lot more view on the D5100 crop sensor, I have the D5300
and love the extra wide angle I get. The 2.8 is helpful indoors for the extra light, or outdoor at night in the
city. Picked it up for 300 used. I also have the 85mm 1.8 - excellent for portraits - got it used for 300 and it's my
favorite lens. I even use it shooting volleyball indoors with excellent results.