bkyser Loc: Fly over country in Indiana

DebAnn,
Keep us posted in how it goes.
Thanks
Bob (bkyser)

DebAnn Loc: Toronto

Will do Bob. Thanks a lot.

Beercat Loc: Central Coast of California

OK, my 2 cents worth ....

As already pointed out there can only be one captain holding the rudder. Personally I would gracefully bow out. That is not to say don't bring your camera .... it's been my experience that the most treasured photos are the candid shots. Sure the beautiful posed portraits are great and they will become wall hangers but the ones most shared and treasured will be the candid photos.

You can simply go after candid moments. I talked to many world famous wedding photographers and many of their most favorite photos are candid shots. When I setup for a portrait I often capture the best take just after the 'portrait' .... I mean within a second or two. Usually the B&G or the whoever become more natural just a few seconds after the 'portrait'. Of course candid photos capture emotion either just after the posed shot or during the evening ....

To me wedding photography first and foremost is about catching those special moments in a candid way ....

Relax and enjoy the day without the pressure .... a few candid precious moments will be cherish more down the road ...

Here is an outstanding example ... One of Cliff Mautner's most loved photos was this one ... candid shot, the 90+ year old great grandmother approaching the bride ... the expression of pure joy and of course those 'thing's on the left .... precious moment for sure and as Cliff stated, my exposure and composition was not the best .... but the moment will last forever.

https://www.cmphotography.com/rittenhouse-weddings

DebAnn Loc: Toronto

Thanks, but bowing out isn't an option when you've committed to being the wedding photographer.

Beercat Loc: Central Coast of California

I’ll only speak for myself but even if I had a contract for a shoot and then the bride told me there was going to be another photographer taking pictures I would ask to be released from the contract and refund the money.

DebAnn Loc: Toronto

So would I, but in this case the other photographer is my sister!

pbphoto

Hi DebAnn, I think that you have been given loads of advice and all very sound. However what I have not seen asked is - presuming that you and your sister have differing styles of photography - whose style does the B&G prefer? That, in one, may answer your dilemma. That said though, it appears it was you who was asked first by the B&G to photograph their wedding, whilst it was you who suggested your sister be included, so it might not be down to the B&G to resolve this matter after all, rather you. (Apologies if this sounds harsh.)

DebAnn Loc: Toronto

Thanks for weighing in pb. I think we've come to a workable agreement now. We live a long way apart but I was able to visit a couple of weeks ago and discuss the job with my sister as well as the bride. I am doing the formal photography and she is doing the more candid stuff - the bride wants a mix of the two styles.

pbphoto

Great Stuff DebAnn, really pleased to hear that an amicable solution has been arrived at. Enjoy your day. PB