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Feb 23, 2015 22:31:16 #
boy does house-hunting suck I have not been able to go anywhere to take some decent photos just of homes we looked at, now we have found one and we are to pay cash which I want to do and they are holding us up. it is so frustrating that I got to visit Sierra Visa VA clinic with a close call they wanted to send me to Tuscon hospital and I refused I have reached the point I do not care anymore I want at least a couple of days to go out where I can get some decent photos, this ,may end up being the end of my marriage we are in a large fight which I am afraid will come to a lousy conclusion, sorry for the rant but I have no one to turn to she has her sisters who seem to think they know it all. Terry
Feb 23, 2015 22:35:39 #
Feb 23, 2015 22:43:23 #
terry44 wrote:
boy does house-hunting suck I have not been able t... (show quote)
Terry, sisters always know it all. Don't fight it, it's futile. If you get a divorce, who's gonna cook and do laundry ?! :lol: :lol:
Good luck.
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Feb 23, 2015 22:46:23 #
Where are you lookin' for a house? Maui? Yes the VA sucks, I got some stories about that too. Sometimes a divorce ain't all that bad, it could lead to a better time for you. Good luck.
Feb 23, 2015 22:55:55 #
chase4 wrote:
Where are you lookin' for a house? Maui? Yes the VA sucks, I got some stories about that too. Sometimes a divorce ain't all that bad, it could lead to a better time for you. Good luck.
:lol: :lol: or a much worse time!!
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Feb 23, 2015 23:44:34 #
no Maui is where I want to stay we are in Sierra Vista, Arizona, and divorce is looking better all the time don't have to deal with obnoxious in-laws never had a problem with the VA they treat me well just do not wish to see the inside of Tuscons hospital, if stroke symptoms get worse oh well, had a decent life
chase4 wrote:
Where are you lookin' for a house? Maui? Yes the VA sucks, I got some stories about that too. Sometimes a divorce ain't all that bad, it could lead to a better time for you. Good luck.
Feb 23, 2015 23:47:18 #
just gotta vent sometimes, photography is what keeps me going and it sucks I am stuck looking at homes I really do not want, wife seems to feel the need to be near her crazy sisters, what a headache
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Feb 23, 2015 23:47:59 #
I know it is a lost cause for sure
SharpShooter wrote:
Terry, sisters always know it all. Don't fight it, it's futile. If you get a divorce, who's gonna cook and do laundry ?! :lol: :lol:
Good luck.
SS
Good luck.
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Feb 24, 2015 07:04:10 #
I will tell you like I told my son. Grow a pair and tell them to f&@$ off. It worked for me. You have a life too.
Feb 24, 2015 09:00:12 #
I had similar problems with an ex wife. She and her brothers and sisters always had an opinion and caused a lot of friction. That plus the fact she couldnt hang onto a dollar were our demise. She thoght if you charged something you didnt have to worry about paying i back. Interest and minimum payments built up and when I found out it was too late. She couldnt live with me taking over the finances. That was it that did it. Constant arguing is no way to live. You only have one life. Live it to its fullest.
Feb 24, 2015 10:32:33 #
we must be twins, same exact thing our marriage has survived a lot but after 38 years I have had enough and have told her so, either she listens to reason wore go our separate ways, I really hope she goes my way but with the wicked sisters of the east here I do not know, I may return to Maui alone.
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Feb 25, 2015 15:50:20 #
terry44 wrote:
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Terry, I've not registered for any forum of any kind for over a decade. But, when I read your situation here, last night, it touched my heart and I wrote this note and saved it. After contemplating for 12 hours, here it is, FWIW:
First, let me tell you I've been a divorce recovery support group facilitator and counselor for 21 years. I've not met you and don't know both sides of the story, but I've been listening to similar stories of relationship (marriage) failure, (probably 15-20 per week) for a very long time.
Just on what you've written here, I don't believe your relationship problems are about your photography or about where you live. It's something else, and it's vintage, and it's deep...probably older and deeper than the marriage, itself. From what you write, I get hints of an unhealthy co-dependent relationship in her family, that seems to have finally focused on her syblings, at the center of the frame.
I believe I can safely tell you that moving may solve your problem for a temporary period and then it will become worse than when you lived on Maui (because it's not about Maui and cannot be fixed by Arizona). And DO NOT give up your photography; in many ways it's even better than fishing to help a man keep his sanity, and may be the one thing that has kept you out of the hospital for this long.
In brief: If you move, the relationship will eventually be worse than if you stay put. If you don't get out and do more of the kinds of photography you love, your health (and the marriage) will deteriorate even faster. Keep us apprised of how things are going for you.
Feb 25, 2015 22:29:26 #
First off welcome to the hog its a great place for photography information and ranting as I did here, you are close on some of your points and I appreciate how you put things. I do have a problem with one of her sisters and all of her brothers(they are in Minnesota so no worry's) I really like the other sister and she is here now with the other sister for good both own separate homes, I went out alone with her yesterday afternoon to have a talk with her and the problem was that she lost her husband my good friend 3 years ago she then hooked up with an old school mate who had just lost his wife they were traveling companions, well the guy is a real dufass when he came to Maui with her to visit our Samoan friends wanted to use him as shark bait, when she bought her home here he has been trying to get her to put his name on everything she has, well she was upset and thought if my wife and I came it would be easier for her to send him packing, she said she truly does not wish to influence our decision, so yesterday afternoon I helped him pack his stuff and sent him back to Minnesota,the other sister does need help she has real medical issues, my wife and I talked at length and we decided to move here from Maui for 2 years the home closes Friday we got a really great price and we are buying 2 more smaller homes to rent out after we fix them up we will visit Maui at least 3 months per year, and if the homes go up enough in value we will sell and buy a place in Maui if we still want to. she is very worried about her sister and I have kept her far away from family in my mind not due to her family(but who knows) and stayed in warmer climates. I sort of owe this to her as I love her with all my heart, as for photography I got out there today to the Mary on the mountain shine it was a wonderful day will work on getting some photos up this week. I am heading back home to Maui for 2 months to do a couple of gigs I promised and have a group to shoot in Santa Cruz Ca. later this spring.and get set to move we rent at the moment as Maui is expensive we could buy a place there and have very little cushion, here in Sierra Vista we will not even feel it in our pocket books as we are lucky enough to be paying cash for the homes. Again thanks for the advice. Terry
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Mar 19, 2015 01:48:03 #
well things worked out after I settled down the move from Maui is very painful for me I truly love this place, and I will visit twice a year for sure, the home we bought in Sierra Vista is really nice and much less than Maui prices which I really cannot afford I have my shoots done here on the island and as far as the friends that I shoot they are happy to have me come to their other places on the mainland for a visit and session. So I will be happy in Arizona, it it a wondrous place with so much to take in. My wife finally told family and friends to butt out as she got fed up with everyones advise, we settled on a home further from them and are in the process of buying 120 acres with a cabin near Bisby I am also a rockhound, and gold dredger I will try my hand at using a small backhoe and trommel system to get the minerals and sort the gravel to sell later. I leave Maui next thursday but have tickets to come back in November for a month. No great photos yet but will get some before I leave moving sucks but we have it almost done then beach time.
May 11, 2015 15:13:30 #
well after a month and a bit here in Sierra Vista AZ it is quite different than Maui that is for sure but I was back in Maui 2 weeks ago for a shoot and am going back to Kauai in 2 months for another. So I am getting back there to enjoy, I am trying hard to like the Sierra Vista area and have gotten out to shoot some places now that the move is over I am headed to my grandsons graduation in Sonora Ca. next week and will shoot my sons band which now has 2 of the guys from the Tubes in it that will be fun I will do them justice. then of to Palmyra NY. to visit other son and the young grand-kids, I think things are working out and I will again find the beauty around me to photograph guess just like any artist we hit dry times
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