Response to constructive criticism...
Oct 25, 2014 22:45:43 #
rpavich wrote:
This doesn't make sense to me. If a person is kind enough to take the time and help me or tell me that they appreciated something I've created...and then I thank them for being kind or for their "kind words"...that diminishes what they've said?
That makes no sense to me...or maybe I didn't get what you are saying.
That makes no sense to me...or maybe I didn't get what you are saying.
What happened to your dog avatar?!!! I expected to see something cute over on the left side!
Oct 25, 2014 23:05:20 #
Uuglypher wrote:
Hi, SS, br I've read what you've written and find... (show quote)
But what if the praise is undeserved but a person states praise just to be kind to a newbie who actually isn't good just so they'll remain encouraged to keep going and continue learning?
It happens all the time here. How is the recipient of the praise supposed to know if it was just kind or actually truthful? It's virtually impossible. The sender of praise could swear on a stack of Bibles and big to have the earth open up and swallow them if they aren't telling the truth by giving praise, and the recipient still has to doubt the honesty of it. There are kind people on here giving praise. There are people who wouldn't know quality if it hit them in the face giving praise when they shouldn't. There are people who are good at what they do and people here respect them and their opinions and if they give praise we all listen carefully because we'll be amazed that they gave praise in the first place and we'll likely learn from it.
It's like going to the maternity ward after a mother gives birth and you're led to a viewing window where there are two dozen shriveled up, red, essentially ugly, 6 to 10 pound poop bags waving their fists in the air as they revolt against air and light with all their might, swadled in white cloths with virtually no distinguishable differences except some are Black and some are Caucasian. You're supposed to have the mother point out her puckered package with glee and you say, "Ohhhh.. isn't he/she just beautiful! He/she definitely has your eyes! (although none of them have their eyes open)" In your mind you're thinking, "Oh God, strike me with lightning so I can get out of here and stop lying" but you say it anyway just like everybody else who visits Mom & Baby.
In reality the truth would be, "Which one is yours? They're all the same and I can't tell. Wow, I can't even tell if that's a boy or a girl because it looks like a pale prune." but you can't say that to a proud new parent.
I've seen many people try editing somebody's photo to help them out and the result was so much worse that it was actually funny but nobody usually criticized the one who was trying to help - except several crude rubes we have on here who criticize everybody for everything.
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