It didn't use to bother me as much, but nowadays... here is a shot of chaos, a nightmare for me. The fellow in the back with his arms way up, that's the dad. The guests were like a pack of hungry paparazzi.

For a young photographer, the 35mm will likely be more useful, as, on a DX camera, it is basically a 52mm, which is the "normal lens" which was the most common lens back in the days of film.

Further, for a young photographer, I'd stay away from VR lenses, as good handling technique can arise from the need to hold things steady.

There was no VR back in my photojournalism days, nor digital cameras, for that matter, but I developed the skill to shoot a 200mm lens at 1/8th of a second shutter speed with tack sharp results. With a wide angle and elbow supports, I can shoot at nearly two full seconds exposure, tack sharp. There's no substitute for developing steady hands and good camera technique.

If you guys don't like the question why do you answer with a negative? Why not just hit the back arrow and read another thread that someone else has started. I probably did this 10 times already today because I see the same questions over and over. But mostly this is because the people are fairly new to forums like this, so they don't know about or how to use the search feature. Every time I join a new forum it takes me a while to figure out what and where everything is and how it works. Hell, it took me 2 months to figure out how to upload a picture here because UHH has so many quirks when using IE9/Win7. So please, hit the back space key or the back arrow in your browser if you have heard enough on the subject. I have a Canon 7D and I will read everything said about it even if it is a repeat.