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Jun 30, 2015 10:41:02   #
hlmichel Loc: New Hope, Minnesota
 
I took off my wedding band around 8:00 or so last night. I didn't do a FB status update to mark the occasion.

It's been more than 12 hours and there is still an indention and a lighter stripe of skin to remind me where it was.
By this time next week, both should be gone.

I suspected that something was going on. But there is a big difference between suspecting and actually finding out. Last night I had a conversation with the other guy. He confirmed that they are a couple and have been physical. He didn't know that she was married, but didn't seem to terribly concerned to find that she was married.

The wife called me later in a rage. How dare I intrude into her life! She was actually attempt to keep two households--me and the kids in one and her other guy and his daughter in another.

Her family in California was starting to suspect something and she had been hiding. Now it's out and she hates me for telling them.

What a mess.

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Jun 30, 2015 10:57:58   #
lamiaceae Loc: San Luis Obispo County, CA
 
hlmichel wrote:
I took off my wedding band around 8:00 or so last night. I didn't do a FB status update to mark the occasion.

It's been more than 12 hours and there is still an indention and a lighter stripe of skin to remind me where it was.
By this time next week, both should be gone.

I suspected that something was going on. But there is a big difference between suspecting and actually finding out. Last night I had a conversation with the other guy. He confirmed that they are a couple and have been physical. He didn't know that she was married, but didn't seem to terribly concerned to find that she was married.

The wife called me later in a rage. How dare I intrude into her life! She was actually attempt to keep two households--me and the kids in one and her other guy and his daughter in another.

Her family in California was starting to suspect something and she had been hiding. Now it's out and she hates me for telling them.

What a mess.
I took off my wedding band around 8:00 or so last ... (show quote)


Is this real? You may need A New Hope.

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Jun 30, 2015 11:07:35   #
rmalarz Loc: Tempe, Arizona
 
hlmichel wrote:
I took off my wedding band around 8:00 or so last night. I didn't do a FB status update to mark the occasion.

It's been more than 12 hours and there is still an indention and a lighter stripe of skin to remind me where it was.
By this time next week, both should be gone.

I suspected that something was going on. But there is a big difference between suspecting and actually finding out. Last night I had a conversation with the other guy. He confirmed that they are a couple and have been physical. He didn't know that she was married, but didn't seem to terribly concerned to find that she was married.

The wife called me later in a rage. How dare I intrude into her life! She was actually attempt to keep two households--me and the kids in one and her other guy and his daughter in another.

Her family in California was starting to suspect something and she had been hiding. Now it's out and she hates me for telling them.

What a mess.
I took off my wedding band around 8:00 or so last ... (show quote)


I empathize with you. Yes, what a mess. It never ceases to amaze as to how vehemently angry the guilty party gets at the innocent. Sorry to hear of your situation.
--Bob

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Jun 30, 2015 11:09:31   #
Ol' Frank Loc: Orlando,
 
Been there, done that. Happens to the best of us. Some of us twice. Maybe the best is yet to come for you, at least I hope.

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Jun 30, 2015 11:17:43   #
hlmichel Loc: New Hope, Minnesota
 
lamiaceae wrote:
Is this real? You may need A New Hope.


WA-WA-WA-WAAAAAAAAAAA!

It is real and I guess I do need a new hope.

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Jun 30, 2015 11:19:37   #
rpavich Loc: West Virginia
 
hlmichel wrote:
I took off my wedding band around 8:00 or so last night. I didn't do a FB status update to mark the occasion.

It's been more than 12 hours and there is still an indention and a lighter stripe of skin to remind me where it was.
By this time next week, both should be gone.

I suspected that something was going on. But there is a big difference between suspecting and actually finding out. Last night I had a conversation with the other guy. He confirmed that they are a couple and have been physical. He didn't know that she was married, but didn't seem to terribly concerned to find that she was married.

The wife called me later in a rage. How dare I intrude into her life! She was actually attempt to keep two households--me and the kids in one and her other guy and his daughter in another.

Her family in California was starting to suspect something and she had been hiding. Now it's out and she hates me for telling them.

What a mess.
I took off my wedding band around 8:00 or so last ... (show quote)


Very sorry to hear that....been there (but not quite so creatively)

It will get better...trust me.

You might even learn to trust again and find a great woman who loves you and won't do that to you (I did)

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Jun 30, 2015 11:23:16   #
hlmichel Loc: New Hope, Minnesota
 
rmalarz wrote:
I empathize with you. Yes, what a mess. It never ceases to amaze as to how vehemently angry the guilty party gets at the innocent. Sorry to hear of your situation.
--Bob


I don't understand it either. Once it was out she was throwing everything at me. She is cheating because I never loved her--because I got mad and called her names(about 11 years ago)--because I cheated on her once(never actually happened.)

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Jun 30, 2015 11:24:26   #
StrangerHart Loc: Whitetop, VA
 
hlmichel wrote:
I took off my wedding band around 8:00 or so last night. I didn't do a FB status update to mark the occasion.

It's been more than 12 hours and there is still an indention and a lighter stripe of skin to remind me where it was.
By this time next week, both should be gone.

I suspected that something was going on. But there is a big difference between suspecting and actually finding out. Last night I had a conversation with the other guy. He confirmed that they are a couple and have been physical. He didn't know that she was married, but didn't seem to terribly concerned to find that she was married.

The wife called me later in a rage. How dare I intrude into her life! She was actually attempt to keep two households--me and the kids in one and her other guy and his daughter in another.

Her family in California was starting to suspect something and she had been hiding. Now it's out and she hates me for telling them.

What a mess.
I took off my wedding band around 8:00 or so last ... (show quote)


Just remember, it probably had nothing to do with you. Her failure to honor her commitments to you and family should speak volumes.

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Jun 30, 2015 11:28:11   #
joehel2 Loc: Cherry Hill, NJ
 
I'm sorry to hear this. It is easier said than done but it is best if you focus on the future and not the past. Everything that transpired before "8:00 last night" is written in stone, no discussion, study or analysis will help or make it better. You have to understand you will have a "new normal" now, this is what you have to work on, making it the best life for you and your children. Every new day is an opportunity for you to make a better life for yourself.

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Jun 30, 2015 12:32:02   #
THISTLE Loc: Reidsville NC
 
Not gonna rehash. I empathize with you 'cause I've been there. Only advice for now is get a GOOD lawyer who specialized in helping men. Follow his advice to the letter and "hunker down" because a lotta "stuff" is gonna be flying.
It will get better

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Jun 30, 2015 12:37:07   #
superpijak Loc: Middle TN
 
hlmichel wrote:
I took off my wedding band around 8:00 or so last night. I didn't do a FB status update to mark the occasion.

It's been more than 12 hours and there is still an indention and a lighter stripe of skin to remind me where it was.
By this time next week, both should be gone.

I suspected that something was going on. But there is a big difference between suspecting and actually finding out. Last night I had a conversation with the other guy. He confirmed that they are a couple and have been physical. He didn't know that she was married, but didn't seem to terribly concerned to find that she was married.

The wife called me later in a rage. How dare I intrude into her life! She was actually attempt to keep two households--me and the kids in one and her other guy and his daughter in another.

Her family in California was starting to suspect something and she had been hiding. Now it's out and she hates me for telling them.

What a mess.
I took off my wedding band around 8:00 or so last ... (show quote)


This will only make you stronger. Bravo for you. Persevere!!

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Jun 30, 2015 17:25:05   #
Michael Hartley Loc: Deer Capital of Georgia
 
They don't like to be called 'divorce lawyers' anymore. Now, they call themselves 'Domestic Litigators'. Charge more than a divorce lawyer. Some of us have been there, it sucks!

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Jul 1, 2015 05:58:39   #
nanaval Loc: Cornwall
 
So sorry to hear this, Keep your chin up and you will get through it....

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Jul 1, 2015 06:06:20   #
Mr. Fixit Loc: south Jersey Shore
 
It Happened to me. She was cheating but it still cost me a fortune. Now I'm with Miss Right and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. YOU WILL BE FINE. AND DON'T FORGET THAT.

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Jul 1, 2015 06:24:28   #
Bobbee
 
WOW, Good luck and bright future.

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