I rarely use people's names when addressing them. This false familiarity makes think they're trying to sell me something of dubious quality that I don't want or need.
canonuser25 wrote:
I rarely use people's names when addressing them. This false familiarity makes think they're trying to sell me something of dubious quality that I don't want or need.
lol...how is that a false familiarity?
Never heard that one before...reluctant to use names. It's the entire point of having one.
jerryc41 wrote:
When I was younger, we spoke about someone's mother, not someone's mom. "Mom" was what you called your own mother. Now, "mom" is all you hear. Is it an attempt to become more familiar with people? Sound more folksy? I don't like it, and I'm starting a campaign to get "Mother" back into our lives. I'm starting a GoFundMe page, and I'll post the link later. Thanks for your support.
(Yes, I am kidding about the GoFundMe page. Unfortunately, I had to actually say that I was kidding.)
The same applies to "dad," of course, but people tend to ignore fathers. They're either at work or fishing/golfing/gambling/drinking.
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In some societies, anyone older than one's parents are referred to as aunts and uncles. The group older than them are called grandmothers and grandfathers. The group same age as the parents are fathers and mothers. The group younger are daughters and sons. It depends on the social dicta.
As to the use of first names of the parents, that is to show that an adult is speaking to another adult. I prefer that others use my first name when conversing with me. The respect is in how I am approached, knowing that it is the reflection of my respect for my fellow human being.
The hypocrisy is self evident in those who demand title labels. The worst of the lot are the various clerics and politicians. Toss in many of the military lifers. Indoctrination becomes no one.
Scruples wrote:
Don’t feel bad.
The other day my daughter’s boyfriend (Alex) had brought another friend along (James). All three were talking when James said “Lisa’s Dad.” I looked at James and asked, “What did you call me?” He quickly apologized and I told James if you ever call me that again, I will beat up Alex. We all laughed.
When I was younger my parents did not hesitate to spank me. Now I suffer from a rare psychological condition. It is called respecting others. Kids need to learn their place and how hard a parent’s hand can be.
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Hmm . . . it would not have occurred to me that this was an issue.
No need to worry about any of this. When I'm elected, things will be different!
Jerry, Jerry, Jerry, we no longer use the term "Mother" or "Mom" for the socially accepted term is now "Birthing Person". This change is necessary because, according to the advocates, men can now give birth.
I also suggest that you carry a notepad in your pocket so that you can jot down what an individual's preferred pronouns are as well as the name that they desire to be called. Using the wrong pronoun or calling someone by their "dead name" (like calling them Bob instead of Betty now) could get you in trouble with the law in some places and that is no joke.
I ALWAYS called my mother mother if I didn't she wouldn't answer...
skip_m wrote:
I ALWAYS called my mother mother if I didn't she wouldn't answer...
This brings up the question. "Since the Mum is dead, does this mean that we cannot refer to the head of England as 'mum'. Or is mum the word?"
tomad
Loc: North Carolina
jerryc41 wrote:
When I was younger, we spoke about someone's mother, not someone's mom. "Mom" was what you called your own mother. Now, "mom" is all you hear. Is it an attempt to become more familiar with people? Sound more folksy? I don't like it, and I'm starting a campaign to get "Mother" back into our lives. I'm starting a GoFundMe page, and I'll post the link later. Thanks for your support.
(Yes, I am kidding about the GoFundMe page. Unfortunately, I had to actually say that I was kidding.)
The same applies to "dad," of course, but people tend to ignore fathers. They're either at work or fishing/golfing/gambling/drinking.
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My Mother always insisted on being called "Mother" by her children. She said mom (or anything else) was disrespectful. Calling her mom would have gotten me swatted "up side the head". My Father, on the other hand wasn't bothered by Daddy when we were young and Dad later in life although he didn't care for "Poppa" or any of it's derivatives.
jerryc41 wrote:
When I was younger, we spoke about someone's mother, not someone's mom. "Mom" was what you called your own mother. Now, "mom" is all you hear. Is it an attempt to become more familiar with people? Sound more folksy? I don't like it, and I'm starting a campaign to get "Mother" back into our lives. I'm starting a GoFundMe page, and I'll post the link later. Thanks for your support.
(Yes, I am kidding about the GoFundMe page. Unfortunately, I had to actually say that I was kidding.)
The same applies to "dad," of course, but people tend to ignore fathers. They're either at work or fishing/golfing/gambling/drinking.
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when i was married to my first wife she never had my kids call me anything but my first name then i found out later she was messing around and i dont think i was there father after all.idont have any contact with them now
lamiaceae wrote:
I always addressed my friends parents as "Mr. or Mrs. whatever" their last named were. Same with teachers and other professionals. Only as an adult I gradually referred to friend's parents and addressed them by their given names. Often only if I considered the parents friends of mine as well. Today I usually use first names for friends, and their parents who may also be friends. I am often older than my friends or even their parents today. I guess my parents and others taught me to be respectful to my elders.
Some of my adult friends minor children in more recent years would address my by my first name. That was awkward and I was not totally happy about it. But, hey, some of these same ones would address their own parents by their first names and not Mother or Mom. For a while I was teaching and occasionally a student would learn of my full name and try using my first name. I would put a stop to that immediately. Even being addressed with "Mr. Williams" took some getting used to in general because to me Mr. Williams was my father.
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Whenever my wife and I have been introduced to our sons' friends, it was as Mr. and Mrs. We were often quick to state they could call us by our first names, if that would be acceptable to their parents. recently I worked in a play with a young girl, age 11, and on introduction advised her of my preference. Her arents were agreeable and she has used my first name easily.
OTOH, I can understand and support the use of proper titles if a person is more comfortable with that.
JohnR
Loc: The Gates of Hell
Scruples wrote:
Don’t feel bad.
The other day my daughter’s boyfriend (Alex) had brought another friend along (James). All three were talking when James said “Lisa’s Dad.” I looked at James and asked, “What did you call me?” He quickly apologized and I told James if you ever call me that again, I will beat up Alex. We all laughed.
When I was younger my parents did not hesitate to spank me. Now I suffer from a rare psychological condition. It is called respecting others. Kids need to learn their place and how hard a parent’s hand can be.
Don’t feel bad. br The other day my daughter’s bo... (
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Call me what you want as long as it's not "late for dinner"
Remember that great old movie, "I Remember Mother?" I didn't think so.
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