SonyBug

Reminds me of the job I had for a "friend" to move two walls in my house and build a floor in the room it would create. I waited for a month and he did not show up, so I said, "Well, I will just start the job to get ahead a bit." Waited some more, no showup and I said, "Well, I will just do a little more." and so it went until he called 2 months later and said, "I can be there next week." And I said, "I am sorry, I finished it a few days ago." I spent 200 hours and about $3,000 for materials and saved $12,000 from what it would have cost to have someone else do it. And I did not feel bad at all that he did not show up when he promised he would. Hope he did not need the money!

foathog Loc: Greensboro, NC

[quote=jerryc41]I found myself in an awkward situation. A fellow ukulele player whom I see occasionally is a very good painter. I asked him if he could paint a scene on one of my ukes. I gave him some examples, and he said he'd do some sketches and get back to be in a few days. That was over a month ago. When I emailed him, he said he was busy with this and that, but he'd be ready to go soon. Today, he told the group that water pipes broke in his old house, and he's waiting for the plumber to arrive.


Maybe he's ALREADY forgotten about it. He can't do it without the UKE. "forget" to give it to him.



This is a very nice, kind, giving guy, but he was in a car accident when he was younger, and he has slight memory/mind problems. I want to remain friends with him, and I don't want to hurt his feelings or insult him, but I'd like to get out of this agreement. There was no money involved, aside from paying for his painting supplies, but he wanted me to promote his painting among uke players, which is something I wouldn't want to do, considering the delays.

Another consideration is what would happen if I give him the uke? Would I ever see it again? I know another very good painter whom I see at a painting group every week, and she would do a great job. Obviously, there's no simple solution to this, but I thought the collective wisdom of UHH might come up with something that's workable.

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Architect1776 Loc: In my mind

I would not go near the guy. Total trouble.

retiredsgt Loc: Red Lion Pa.

jerry-- If a person does not want to do something-----. Why force it ? Just forget it. If he comes to you asking to do the job, then...……., MAYBE...! You have got your valuable UKE ---Enjoy it.

agillot

paint something yourself , and next time you see him , thank him for the job .

neillaubenthal

Definitely includes me...I’m always sending myself email with the action item in the subject and no body. I keep my inbox pretty empty and it is my “don’t forget to” list.

elee950021 Loc: New York, NY

Buy a "beat up" or "user" cheaply and let him work on it if he asks. It would also be a good sample of his work!

Cheers! Be well.

Ed
President, www.parkwestcameraclub.org, “Celebrating our 83rd Anniversary!”
Organizer, www.meetup.com/NYPhotoSafari, “Photographing NYC since 2004!”

AirWalter Loc: Tipp City, Ohio

Right there is your answer Jerry. Just let Him know that You have been informed about the paint affecting the performance of the "Uke" and You changed Your mind.

Scruples Loc: Brooklyn, New York

Okay. I sometimes forget to remember. Or maybe, I remember to forget. Many times friends and family want my photographs. I often promise I'll print them out. Then I get busy with something else. I don't remember the promise. Then we will meet up again. Then during some chit chat I receive the reminder, "How come I never got those pictures you promised?" Typical knee jerk hand slap to the forhead response. "Ooops!"
So here is my solution. I will write their name and address and the subject of the photos in a small notebook. I keep that notebook in my camera bag. Then when I get home and am near a printer, I'll put together an envelope full of the photos. So now I'm not the "forgetful photographer." Now where did I put my notebook? LOL!

Happy Shooting!

Bill 45

Have you talk to any member of his family? A family member may be able to guide you. Don't give up on the guy yet, he may need help of some kind and you could be the person that could help him. And you don't known that you may be able to help him.

Jaackil Loc: Massachusetts

If it were me I would not bring it up again wait and see if he says something. Chances are he won’t. Especially given his memory problems as you describe. It is also possible he just doesn’t want to do it for what ever reason. If you just let it go it lets both of you off the hook gracefully.

jerryc41 Loc: Catskill Mts of NY

Good for you!

If he needed the money, he must have been out buying lottery tickets.

jerryc41 Loc: Catskill Mts of NY

He has no family.

jerryc41 Loc: Catskill Mts of NY

Problem solved. I spoke to a very good painter I know, and she was thrilled to have the opportunity to paint it. At our Monday painting session, she and two other women discussed sample images and colors. When she gets it finished, I'll post a picture.

I told the original guy, and he was fine with it.