Bullying at school.
Try being handed a knife, and told to go cut a switch.
quote=ngc1514 My daughter was about 7 years old a... (
Some time ago one smack to the head of the perpetrator by the victim would have solved that problem immediately
Blame our judicial system! I was a teacher and you can't even put your hand on a student while giving a good stern lecture. When we were growing up parents could give a spanking. Today a student can tell a teacher who must notify authorities. Also, administrators will tell teachers they must handle all discipline. Don't send your problems to the office. I taught inner city. I had my life threatened numerous times. Once by a father when I placed a twenty five cent fine on his sons new science book for minor damage. In the school district I taught in things are now worse. I was told teachers are being taken to the hospital from being struck. I will say my military training prepared me well.
I think all this bulling we keep reading about results from the parents obvious lack of administering the good old "Boot to the Butt' as they raise their precious curtain climbers.
There isnt as many families piling into the car for that Sunday morning drive to not only
church but to Sunday School.
Thinking back on growing up I recall learning several good lessons from the flat portion of my Fathers work shoes, respect for other folks and other folks property, honesty as in Don't tell another fib or lie--depended on the severity of the fib.
Language was my Fathers pride and joy, remember first time I uttered the F word, was at the dinner table and was relating an incident with an old gentlemen that lived behind us. My Fathers dinner fork darn near broke the plate when he laid it down amongst the hash and pork & beans. He simply picked up his dinner knife, reached across the table and struck me between the eyes with the flat handle portion and said "now say it again" How many of you remember the GI silverware, the knife had USN stamped in the handle and it was heavy. One could drive upholstery tacks back in the bottom of the kitchen chairs with them. It took one time for me to acquire a sudden aversion to any words starting with F. For the longest time swore that speech impediment was natural born.
In 1963 came home on leave after my first tour of Viet Nam, took the folks out to dinner
and recall at some point in our meal the waitress asking me if I would like more Iced Tea, come on lived in the south, I replied no, dont think so. The look my Mother gave me very quickly brought back to mind that I had committed a cardinal sin of forgetting my manners, I should have said No thank you Mamm. To this day when out in public still do not forget my manners.
All these high dollar analysts sit around expounding on their book learning by putting the blame on society, peer pressure and everything but the real cause, upbringing.
This is simply my opinion but never the less it goes a long way.
Hope you ladies have a wonderful blessed day and Guys, just hang in there its gonna get better.
Kind of out of the box but yes, bullies do need to be taught what it like.
Is it because they are bullied at home and want to give back ?
Are they neglected and searching for attention ?
Seems like 'no spanking' is working the wrong way.
Sarge it worked for you didn't it?
It happens in every school, sometimes just in different ways. A kid never being invited anyplace [ girls are the worse for this ] is bullying , especially when they come back the next day and it's the only topic of conversation. Being left out is very hurtful to kids. I stood up for a kid in high school who was being bullied, meek looking kid, he told me to step back, he had it . WOW what a beating he gave this bully , needless to say, no one messed with him again. On my block,We would give street justice , that usually cured the punks.
In school, the school and teachers have to handle it , parents show up and always try and defend their little bastards.
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Same thing happened to one of my daughters starting in daycare before kindergarten. 3 girls would play the "don't invite her game". My daughter had anxiety issues anyway and this drove her nuts trying to keep these three girls happy. When I finally realized what was going on I got her and another of her friends and sat them down. Asked the friend what she would think of my daughter if she told these girls off and she said good for her and I'd help. My daughter's face was total shock. She didn't realize that was okay and everyone else felt the same way.
Update. The teachers had a meeting with the principle and this kid was discussed heavily. My daughter watched the playground and asked her son. This kid was nowhere near him all day. Someone got to him.
But, if this happens again my daughter is going to take the advice of whispering in his ear about the biggest bully in school coming to visit him.
Try being handed a knife, and told to go cut a switch.
I've been there!
Does anyone not think that the drug use could also be the problem
What parents took as teens may have changed the DNA of today.
Women are born with all of the eggs they are going to use in life.
As far as I know there are no real studies on this.
Also a good swat on the backside will help with a lot of issues. It kept me on the straight and narrow
What do the kids have to fear?? A time out!!
That's the problem.
I too was bulllied continually right through 7th grade just because I was already 19 years old.
Loc: Michigan & Florida
I also think one of the problems is..(I have a daughter that teaches) everyone says..(and I'm not talking about people who have submitted here)."We need discipline in the schools"..but what they really mean is "We need discipline for everyone,,except my kid!!
When we moved to the Midwest from Northern California, my youngest child's bus driver asked her to sit with a girl who was developmentally disabled because, he said, she was the only kid on the entire 61 passenger bus whop treated the girl decently. The kids who apparently routinely taunted an abused this girl immediately started calling my child retarded.
She came home crying her first day in fourth grade. I called the principal the next morning and told him what was happening and to put a stop to it. He asked what kids were doing it, and I told him. He said he didn't think he could do much because of who these kids were. I told him that he had a choice. He handled it by 3:00, or I handled it the next day, and then he could spend the following six weeks trying to control the fallout from my handling it.
"Dee, what are you going to do?"
"I'm going to ride the bus."
"I don't think you can do that."
"I don't think you're big enough to stop me."
You'd be amazed what school people can do if they have the proper incentives.
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